Tell me men...What is the truth?

[mykil]

You have eyes?

I think we'd scare them to death. Most women multi task even more so internally so if men saw that they'd think there was no room at the Inn for them and there always is.

No please keep noticing my blue eyes and my boobs - even if its not in that order!

[Becky]

:veryfunny:

You have eyes?

[mykil]

Well as it sits now, I think I am still evolving about what is the right woman for me. Everyday something or someone new comes along and it just floors me. I am getting to the point where I might just turn the corner and just start dating guyz, [don’t get your hopes up Edward]. But truth be said, there are a few whack jobs on the loose that just want to have a guy all to there own and just put up with all their baggage and whatever else they come with. Or on the other hand they don’t even have enough time to even give you a quickie, even if they want to, they just cant seem to find the time, yet they still don’t want you seeing anyone else. Dating more than one-woman seems like allot of fun to me and it is. Yet you can still get caught up in the everyday drama of the whole when you get a few that say they don’t mind you dating others when deep down they will do anything to sabotage your every move. They really say they don’t now what you are talking about when low and behold, and I do mean low, someone gets all upset and someone really gets hurt about something that their really should have been nothing to be upset about in the first place. I have alwayz been upfront and extremely open and honest about my intentions in life, yet this is never enough. I am dating several women right now, and they all seem to want me to fall in love with them. Even when I tell they I am not emotionally available on that level at this moment it time, it doesn’t matter.

Hhhmmm oh wellllll!!! No one just wants to have fun anymore it is more of a shopping spree if you ask me. Once they get what they want they are miserably happy and just content, who just wants to be content? I want true love and freedom and to be happy all the time! Not into the jealousy thingy not into spending every waking moment with just one, no wonder so many end up all broken up and divorced!

My perfect woman would be all the married ones that way I could send them home when I was done with them, LOL, since I know I would not live too long in dating all married woman my best bet would to be someone as free as me, some woman that is bi so we can go out and pick up woman together and really have a good time! Someone that is definitely happy all the time and someone that has a body to die for!!! Nice legs, nice assssss, great breasts, huge eyes, nice personality… but truly all those never matter to me, I alwayz have to go with a woman that I can sit in the same room with before, during and yes, even after sexxxx! Knowing that if I ever do fall in love it will be with her, and all her friends!!! ROTFLMFAO!!!!!!

[Becky]

Mykil, once again you have entertained me. I love reading your posts. I hope you find your perfect mate one day. I'm sure there is that woman out there. we are not all bad but i can say there are some real characters out there.

[shellebelle]

I think I can help you a tiny bit.



"Dating more than one-woman seems like allot of fun to me and it is. Yet you can still get caught up in the everyday drama of the whole when you get a few that say they don’t mind you dating others when deep down they will do anything to sabotage your every move. They really say they don’t now ! what you are talking about when low and behold, and I do mean low, someone gets all upset and someone really gets hurt about something that their really should have been nothing to be upset about in the first place."

In my experience:

This is about security. Every woman defines it differently. I had a problem with my husband in this area. One reason security.

I’m not sure if I can explain what this means and does.

But basically when a woman feels insecure she has reactions that aren't always her own.

And she may not realize she feels insecure.

Even women (even those with limited or almost no boundaries) have a few boundaries. It may be a rule or it may be just a gut feeling - she'll know when something doesn't "feel" right and will react rather than respond.

My boyfriends all know my boundaries, they may not understand them but they know them. One understands them and can immediately tell me even by phone if someone is on the edge and making me edgy. (He's in charge of the sanity, LOL.)

The key is to know your boundaries as a woman and avoid the men and women who cross them without permission. As the spouse if you love a woman the key is to not cross the boundaries without permission.

We all push our comfort zones and those are different than boundaries despite often being confused for the same.

This is my experience and philosophy. Take what you can from it if you can.

Well as it sits now, I think I am still evolving about what is the right woman for me. Everyday something or someone new comes along and it just floors me. I am getting to the point where I might just turn the corner and just start dating guyz, [don’t get your hopes up Edward]. But truth be said, there are a few whack jobs on the loose that just want to have a guy all to there own and just put up with all their baggage and whatever else they come with. Or on the other hand they don’t even have enough time to even give you a quickie, even if they want to, they just cant seem to find the time, yet they still don’t want you seeing anyone else. Dating more than one-woman seems like allot of fun to me and it is. Yet you can still get caught up in the everyday drama of the whole when you get a few that say they don’t mind you dating others when deep down they will do anything to sabotage your every move. They really say they don’t now what you are talking about when low and behold, and I do mean low, someone gets all upset and someone really gets hurt about something that their really should have been nothing to be upset about in the first place. I have alwayz been upfront and extremely open and honest about my intentions in life, yet this is never enough. I am dating several women right now, and they all seem to want me to fall in love with them. Even when I tell they I am not emotionally available on that level at this moment it time, it doesn’t matter.

Hhhmmm oh wellllll!!! No one just wants to have fun anymore it is more of a shopping spree if you ask me. Once they get what they want they are miserably happy and just content, who just wants to be content? I want true love and freedom and to be happy all the time! Not into the jealousy thingy not into spending every waking moment with just one, no wonder so many end up all broken up and divorced!

My perfect woman would be all the married ones that way I could send them home when I was done with them, LOL, since I know I would not live too long in dating all married woman my best bet would to be someone as free as me, some woman that is bi so we can go out and pick up woman together and really have a good time! Someone that is definitely happy all the time and someone that has a body to die for!!! Nice legs, nice assssss, great breasts, huge eyes, nice personality… but truly all those never matter to me, I alwayz have to go with a woman that I can sit in the same room with before, during and yes, even after sexxxx! Knowing that if I ever do fall in love it will be with her, and all her friends!!! ROTFLMFAO!!!!!!

[mykil]

And further more, I want a woman that understands the body IS for entertainment purposes. I cannot stand when a woman sayz to me you only want me for my body! Well what the hell where you thinking there before you made this statement, you think that I was attracted to you for you conversation skills? The truth of the matter is we are all attracted to something.

My motto is as follows:

I want you heart!

Yes believe it or not I Love everyone! When you say to me how can you love me when you are with her, and love her, well hell again it is easy, I love everyone and that is that! I even love everything! Now do you want to make out or sit her and argue???? When you make statements concerning others just to try and develop guilt inside on someone else that is just plain rude and annoying and thoughtlessness to warn the other person. Leave well enough alone and lose the guilt machine or lose me!

I want you body!

Yes I DO WANT YOU FOR YOUR BODY!!!!! You body is like a roller coaster ride to me, I love it, doesn’t even matter what you had in mind, if we are alone and In the mode on the bed, we well find a way to have fun, your body is like an amusement park to me, it is pure enjoyment and entertainment get over you bad self, get over here and do what I tell you or I will spank your sweet assss, I will do that anyway but you get my point!!! Why on earth would you not want to be treated like a toy? What on earth gives you the idea that I would want to spent time with a woman that does not want to have sex in the first place? Who are you to tell me what I can think about someone else? I AM STARING AT YOUR BREASTS GET OVER IT!!!!!!

I want you mind!

Yes, I even want to spend time lurking in the shadows of you brain, picking, entertaining our thoughts with each other, you know having a conversation. Yes before I entertain myself with you bode, and BTW I am hoping you are entertaining yourself with mine, after we are through we can talk about all t he things in your life, in my life in our life. Even while we are making love we can use our thoughts and entertain ourselves. GEEZ you would think that by me looking at your breasts that that is all I am about!! PLEASEEEEEE!!!!!! AND FRIGGIN GEEEZZZZZZ!!!!!! I am not suppose to have a healthy appetite toward you what so ever? IT is ok for you to have those thoughts but not me? The shallowness of woman these dayz is beyond me, they think they are sooo deep when really they are so transparent as who knows what? If you want a husband to raise a little family of your own, so be it, I am not here to stop anyone it their tracks. But when you want me to change my whole life just so you can be content with me at your side, forget it. Get a guy that wants to be a puppy dog and have a wonderful life. I will find the ones that really understand life and just want to make things wonderful and full on love laughter and pure enjoyment!

[shellebelle]

I am really enjoying your answers.

AND YES please be attracted to my conversation skills cause otherwise we'll never talk!

Here's the thing from my perspective:

WE WANT IT ALL!!

We want you to want us for our words, our brains, our thoughts, our strengths, our weakness and for our bodies!

And yes we need and should want you for all these things as well.

Timing is the real issue! You = General term - not pointing at Mykil or anyone else.

Its not what you say or what you do its the when that is the challenge. And it goes both ways.

And yes I can talk to you while watching your penis jiggle just like you can talk to me while watching my boobs jiggle but to be fair we have more fun things and they are easier to see. LOL

And further more, I want a woman that understands the body IS for entertainment purposes. I cannot stand when a woman sayz to me you only want me for my body! Well what the hell where you thinking there before you made this statement, you think that I was attracted to you for you conversation skills? The truth of the matter is we are all attracted to something.

My motto is as follows:

I want you heart!

Yes believe it or not I Love everyone! When you say to me how can you love me when you are with her, and love her, well hell again it is easy, I love everyone and that is that! I even love everything! Now do you want to make out or sit her and argue???? When you make statements concerning others just to try and develop guilt inside on someone else that is just plain rude and annoying and thoughtlessness to warn the other person. Leave well enough alone and lose the guilt machine or lose me!

I want you body!

Yes I DO WANT YOU FOR YOUR BODY!!!!! You body is like a roller coaster ride to me, I love it, doesn’t even matter what you had in mind, if we are alone and In the mode on the bed, we well find a way to have fun, your body is like an amusement park to me, it is pure enjoyment and entertainment get over you bad self, get over here and do what I tell you or I will spank your sweet assss, I will do that anyway but you get my point!!! Why on earth would you not want to be treated like a toy? What on earth gives you the idea that I would want to spent time with a woman that does not want to have sex in the first place? Who are you to tell me what I can think about someone else? I AM STARING AT YOUR BREASTS GET OVER IT!!!!!!

I want you mind!

Yes, I even want to spend time lurking in the shadows of you brain, picking, entertaining our thoughts with each other, you know having a conversation. Yes before I entertain myself with you bode, and BTW I am hoping you are entertaining yourself with mine, after we are through we can talk about all t he things in your life, in my life in our life. Even while we are making love we can use our thoughts and entertain ourselves. GEEZ you would think that by me looking at your breasts that that is all I am about!! PLEASEEEEEE!!!!!! AND FRIGGIN GEEEZZZZZZ!!!!!! I am not suppose to have a healthy appetite toward you what so ever? IT is ok for you to have those thoughts but not me? The shallowness of woman these dayz is beyond me, they think they are sooo deep when really they are so transparent as who knows what? If you want a husband to raise a little family of your own, so be it, I am not here to stop anyone it their tracks. But when you want me to change my whole life just so you can be content with me at your side, forget it. Get a guy that wants to be a puppy dog and have a wonderful life. I will find the ones that really understand life and just want to make things wonderful and full on love laughter and pure enjoyment!

[Willie Lumplump]

And yes I can talk to you while watching your penis jiggle

Excuse me, but I've been keeping close track of my member for 64 years and have yet to see or feel it "jiggle." But possibly there is something special in your visual attentions that elicit this extraordinary behavior.

[shellebelle]

Really most in my experience move in lovely little jiggles and even can be known to bounce a tad, tend to not like the cold but that is understandable.

Excuse me, but I've been keeping close track of my member for 64 years and have yet to see or feel it "jiggle." But possibly there is something special in your visual attentions that elicit this extraordinary behavior.

[Willie Lumplump]

Awww..give it up. Check out the stuff that's come out in the last year on epigentics. I, for one, am unwilling to accept evolution as a scapegoat for my or your behavior.

I suppose that it would be a great spiritual achievement to cancel out three million years of evolution, but I don't think that's going to happen anytime soon--probably not within the next three million years. There's a lot of evidence from many studies, such as studies of identical and fraternal twins, that genetics (certainly a product of evolution) accounts for roughly half of all human behavior. And what does epigenetics have to do with scapegoating evolution?

[nanopiano]

my dear you must learn that all men are pigs basically underneath all those layers of perceived intellectualism and materialistic conquests.we like to sc**w.we'll sc**w anything that doesn't run faster than we do.god,haven't you heard the story of the sheep farmer? that's just about all we think of,constantly,day in day out.and when we're not awake and concious,we dream about it.procreation,it's a disease i tell you.it's the nature of the animal,the beast, but it's hell.it's a prison,a coffin in the shadows we must slink back to before dawn.i can guess what dracula was doing in that box after he shut the lid.women like to talk,men like to sc**w.if we had our way all we would do is eat,sleep and sc**w.we're cavemen deep down inside and some of us never let you see that aspect but get us in bed,all that groaning and moaning,geeesh!!!cavemen,genuine fred flinstones i tell ya.we replaced our clubs with remodeled kitchens,bmw's,charge cards and diamond rings.our cave is now a split level duplex in palo alto with a pool and jacuzzi.nothing has changed and there is no truth, no nirvana,no one answer to the question other than it feels good,really good.

[shellebelle]

Wow - thats not my reality!

I found your post very sad.

I meet wonderful men, caring, generous, beautiful spirits. They are intelligent, bright and even brilliant. I'd say they were evolved but I am not certain they started at the level you describe.

Remember:

The universe supports the reality of your beliefs absolutely.

When you believe you must struggle for abundance, then it will bring about situations that are conducive to struggle; when you believe you cannot experience love without pain, the universe will give you exactly that - love with pain; when you believe it takes time for an illness to heal - then so it will. There is not a single force opposing you, there is only ONE force supporting you absolutely. It is called LOVE, the force that birthed you, that created you in its own image. This love is so magnanimous it will give you exactly and absolutely whatever it is that your reality entails.

Change your beliefs and you change your reality.

my dear you must learn that all men are pigs basically underneath all those layers of perceived intellectualism and materialistic conquests.we like to sc**w.we'll sc**w anything that doesn't run faster than we do.god,haven't you heard the story of the sheep farmer? that's just about all we think of,constantly,day in day out.and when we're not awake and concious,we dream about it.procreation,it's a disease i tell you.it's the nature of the animal,the beast, but it's hell.it's a prison,a coffin in the shadows we must slink back to before dawn.i can guess what dracula was doing in that box after he shut the lid.women like to talk,men like to sc**w.if we had our way all we would do is eat,sleep and sc**w.we're cavemen deep down inside and some of us never let you see that aspect but get us in bed,all that groaning and moaning,geeesh!!!cavemen,genuine fred flinstones i tell ya.we replaced our clubs with remodeled kitchens,bmw's,charge cards and diamond rings.our cave is now a split level duplex in palo alto with a pool and jacuzzi.nothing has changed and there is no truth, no nirvana,no one answer to the question other than it feels good,really good.

[thewholetruth]

I agree that it's rare. This America of extreme selfishness I-Me-My MTV instant gratification models everywhere you look on TV, magazines, newspapers, billboards, mall advertisements has become very, very shallow, and many men have caved in to their fleshly impulses, rather than seeking out someone who is truly compatible with them mentally, emotionally, spiritually, with common interests. Fake boobs are everywhere, and frankly, obvious as hell and equally unattractive. Collectively, men have become so immature it's pathetic. Few men ever outgrow the 7th grade mentality, and few women, as well. Politics and Hollywood both operate from the 7th grade mentality. Playboy is on TV now, as well as porn, and the internet is flooded with images of naked and scantily clad women, both on websites and in ads on nonporn sites. Marketing is catering to our lowest nature, and it's working on far too many men, bringing them down to the lowest common animalistic denominator.

As I've gotten older, happily married btw, I've noticed that there seems to be more beautiful women on the planet. I'm aware, however, that I'm seeing beauty in ways I've never seen before. In the eyes, in their spirit, in the way they conduct themselves with dignity and poise and self-restraint. I find that attractive today, far more so than the exposed T & A which used to be what got my attention...more. Skinny, fat, in-between - they all seem to look good now, unless they put a cigarette to their lips, dress like whores, or conduct themselves without dignity and/or respect for themeselves or others.

Don

Not bad, I wish more felt that way...

Sincerely,
Deborah

[thewholetruth]

I found his post sad, as well. He is the quintessential example of all that following the ways of the world will get you. Shallow, shallow, and shallow.

It's sad. The bars are full of men who think like that. Come to think of it, homes in America are full of them, too, now, thanks to Capitalism.

Don

Wow - thats not my reality!

I found your post very sad.

I meet wonderful men, caring, generous, beautiful spirits. They are intelligent, bright and even brilliant. I'd say they were evolved but I am not certain they started at the level you describe.

Remember:

The universe supports the reality of your beliefs absolutely.

When you believe you must struggle for abundance, then it will bring about situations that are conducive to struggle; when you believe you cannot experience love without pain, the universe will give you exactly that - love with pain; when you believe it takes time for an illness to heal - then so it will. There is not a single force opposing you, there is only ONE force supporting you absolutely. It is called LOVE, the force that birthed you, that created you in its own image. This love is so magnanimous it will give you exactly and absolutely whatever it is that your reality entails.

Change your beliefs and you change your reality.

[Shnookums]

Truthful,
Kind,
Not a Drunk.

[Mark Chiang]

The exact details can be extensive for an individual, but if we want to generalize then whatever that is probably won't make me ask someone out. The thing is, as attractive as someone may be physically, if that's ALL I see there's a signal that says something like "this would never work, they're very generic" in response to the very generic signal I get from her. After all, I'm not just looking for a generic "type."

Same for skinny, it just depends - or "see above." I find a lot of skinny women attractive, also curvy women. Domo Arigato, Mr. Roboto..

Exactly what attracts a man to a woman and makes him
want to ask her out?

Is it true the men are not really attracted to skinny women?

Have some fun guys, but be honest.

[Lorrie]

name just one that can vouch for you

I will oh soooo definately vouch for Willie!


I haven't visited this thread for a long time, but looking at it tonight! ANd only getting this far!!!

Willie...uh RON is a very very very very nice man! He is my friend ...He is funny and entertaining! and Intelligent and kind. He has helped me alot. And his dogs are cool and He recently got married!

The way you guys are insulting his thoughts makes the hairs on the back of my neck stand. All he did was answer the question for himself. Why do you people ridicule and be harsh with your "opinions".

MAN! Be Kind! How hard is that?

[kburgess]

What makes a man ask her out-
First got to be physically fit, slender, not skinny, I like breasts,
good body tone, like you like some levels of physical activity,
but not a health nut to show me up.

Second walk and step with confidence, as though you know
who you are, like who you are, and comfortable in your skin.
Never perfect, but better than most.

Third, have eyes that move, aware, seeing things, responding
to your environment, sharp.

Having your body connected to your eyes and environment, as though
you see things and respond. Those subtle body queues that exist
before our minds every become aware of them are what truly represents
our personality that our mind then tries to make sense of.

Lastly, the fact that you have seen me as I might have put attention to
you, and provide a sensory sense of yes in response to my inquiry.

Beyond that the clothes, walk, movement, gait, chat, dance, smell,
and how you might lick your lips or stroke your hair for the real
sexual clues

All of this can take place in seconds, but is the key to the successful
connection. Your brain is wired for this stuff about 10,000x more
effectively than mine, just by biology, so I do not ever try to presume
that I know better, but recognize that you are the gatekeeper to the
possible success of whatever might be going on. I am just the initiator
of this particular phase of the process. You may have a sense of things,
and I just put voice to it.

there is a lot more than that, but there is a good start.

Ken,

[shellebelle]

If I cold give you like loads more gratitude (kudos) for this I would!!

I read this and went: Yes! Yes! Yes!

This is who I look for man or woman!

What makes a man ask her out-
First got to be physically fit, slender, not skinny, I like breasts,
good body tone, like you like some levels of physical activity,
but not a health nut to show me up.

Second walk and step with confidence, as though you know
who you are, like who you are, and comfortable in your skin.
Never perfect, but better than most.

Third, have eyes that move, aware, seeing things, responding
to your environment, sharp.

Having your body connected to your eyes and environment, as though
you see things and respond. Those subtle body queues that exist
before our minds every become aware of them are what truly represents
our personality that our mind then tries to make sense of.

Lastly, the fact that you have seen me as I might have put attention to
you, and provide a sensory sense of yes in response to my inquiry.

Beyond that the clothes, walk, movement, gait, chat, dance, smell,
and how you might lick your lips or stroke your hair for the real
sexual clues

All of this can take place in seconds, but is the key to the successful
connection. Your brain is wired for this stuff about 10,000x more
effectively than mine, just by biology, so I do not ever try to presume
that I know better, but recognize that you are the gatekeeper to the
possible success of whatever might be going on. I am just the initiator
of this particular phase of the process. You may have a sense of things,
and I just put voice to it.

there is a lot more than that, but there is a good start.

Ken,

[kburgess]

I guess my followon to my previous response is to find
out where is the heart, where is the head, and how well are
the two connected. For me it is the Body and the head
connected into the heart as the doorway to both and our
spiritual selves. This is a feeling, and sense of Rightness.

When it is there, it is, and when it isnt, its not.

It is the only really seeing 3 people in a room of 75 that
seem to have any interest or spark, and having your natural
body sense guide you to what is right. Yes there is lots in
those little queues of what makes those 3, but it all fits together,
and our bodies cellular structure carries the true intelligence of
our being, that our brain only realizes after the fact.

This is the science, so for us to just recognize that this is how
our beings work, and that our cellular network is what gives
birth to our consciousness that our brain then tries to understand
is also what makes our own inner world become so interesting.

Anyway, a bit off topic, but I feel that the dating thing is the
absolutely finest example of how our true selves come alive to
identify and recognize ourselves through the process of searching
out the other. It is the most powerful essence of our continuance,
and we want all of our faculties hooked in to do it right.

Good Book- The Female Brain,
An excellent read, and an amazing creation,
My toast to you all,
Ken, .

[thewholetruth]

Anyway, a bit off topic, but I feel that the dating thing is the
absolutely finest example of how our true selves come alive to
identify and recognize ourselves through the process of searching
out the other. It is the most powerful essence of our continuance,
and we want all of our faculties hooked in to do it right.

Ken, .

OTOH, Ken, I've never heard anyone argue with the fact that most of us don't even get real in a relationship until a good 6 months to a year, sometimes 2 years into it. Something about a "Honeymoon period" and putting our best face forward, and it taking some time till we feel safe enough to expose our true selves, quirks, shortcomings, warts and all.

I appreciate all your thoughts, Ken.

[Jason 17]

As a man, the most important aspect is to know the woman is attracted to me.This frees me to express truly when not worrying about being liked.

[NorseViking869]

For me, I prefer a woman be a real woman with curves. She has to have a cute baby face, a bit of a tummy, and child bearing hips. I have to feel someones beauty all night long as well as during the heat of passion. I am not turned on by skinny women, or obese women, just a healthy, thick, athletic, goddess figure. Being a very affectionate man, who is attracted to touch, that is the kind of woman that brings out the tiger in me.

[Jason 17]

What attracts me to a woman is how she carries herself.Without barriers and pretense I feel free to approach.Without judgement I feel free to reveal myself.Intimacy can happen and is the only real basis for for the love I desire. Jason

[Zeno Swijtink]

What Modern Men Want in Women | LiveScience
SALLY LAW - LiveScience.com


Researchers at the University of Iowa find that men increasingly are interested in intelligent, educated women who are financially stable - and chastity isn't an issue.

The findings are part of a study, conducted every decade since 1939, which asks participants to rank a list of 18 characteristics they would want in a partner on a scale ranging from "irrelevant" to "essential." Included are such items as "sociability" and "good cook, housekeeper," as well as "mutual attraction and love," which came in first place for both men and women in 2008. (In 1939, it wasn't in the top three for either sex.)

Male and female participants in 2008 rounded out their top traits with "dependable character" and "emotional stability, maturity." Men ranked intelligence fourth, a big jump from 11th place in 1939; in addition, "good financial prospect" moved to 12th place in 2008, a shift from its low 17th-place ranking in 1939 and last-place ranking in 1967.

"This is a generation of men who has grown up with educated women as their mothers, teachers, doctors, and role models," said Christine Whelan, head of the study and author of "Marry Smart: The Intelligent Woman's Guide to True Love" (Simon & Schuster, 2008). "And in tough economic times, sharing the financial burden with a spouse takes the burden off these guys to be the sole provider."

The study's participants were college students from the University of Iowa, the University of Washington, the University of Virginia, and Penn State University.

"Like attracts like, so certainly the fact that we were polling college students would suggest that intelligence and education are going to be important characteristics," Whelan says.

Another notable shift involves the significance of chastity: In 1939, it was valued more than intelligence in women, but in 2008, it was ranked the least important characteristic. Furthermore, it also was ranked the least important for men. This, coupled with the shared top-three ranking for both men and women, suggests a commonality that seems positively modern-day.

Details:

WHAT MEN WANT

Essential characteristics:

* Mutual attraction and love
* Dependable character
* Emotional stability

Important characteristics:

* Education and intelligence
* Good looks
* Ambition

Desirable characteristics:

* Good financial prospect
* Good cook and housekeeper

Unimportant characteristics:

* Similar political background
* Chastity

WHAT WOMEN WANT

Essential characteristics:

* Mutual attraction and love
* Dependable character
* Emotional stability

Important characteristics:

* Education and intelligence
* Desire for home and children
* Ambition

Desirable characteristics

* Good looks
* Refinement

Unimportant characteristics:

* Similar political background
* Chastity

[abg73]

this is one of the most amusing posts I have ever read.
thank you so much for sharing it.

[Barry]

this is one of the most amusing posts I have ever read.
thank you so much for sharing it.

Which Post??? Please reply with the post number, or paste it into your reply.

[countrygirl]

That is interesting. Seems the same answers for both sexes. I see dependable character and emotional stability is up there. Is there nothing of spiritual person, good heart or any thing of that nature that is desired by potential partners? How strange to me that education, ambition would score up there and no mention of ones values or good nature. Good nature, or lack of, some could call spirituality, is was up there on the list with me.

this is one of the most amusing posts I have ever read.
thank you so much for sharing it.

[Lorrie]

Wow! I want to thank all of you for your contributions to this question and thread. It is very fascinating and insightful. If there are any new comer-men to WaccoBB that would like to tell me what they find attracts them to a woman I am still curious and all eyes...
Even though, I am sure, that since this thread has died down I should assume I have my answer; I mean what else is there right?
My gratitude to each of you is enormous!
I have had 147 replies and 9,697 views of this thread at this writing:
(2/2/2010)!
This implies (to me anyways) that it was a very good question.

Thank you all again!!

Exactly what attracts a man to a woman and makes him
want to ask her out?

Is it true the men are not really attracted to skinny women?

Have some fun guys, but be honest.

[carpet crawler]

Wow! I want to thank all of you for your contributions to this question and thread. It is very fascinating and insightful. If there are any new comer-men to WaccoBB that would like to tell me what they find attracts them to a woman I am still curious and all eyes...
Even though, I am sure, that since this thread has died down I should assume I have my answer; I mean what else is there right?
My gratitude to each of you is enormous!
I have had 147 replies and 9,697 views of this thread at this writing:
(2/2/2010)!
This implies (to me anyways) that it was a very good question.

Thank you all again!!

I figured what the heck, be number 148...

The handful of women who have turned out to be the most important in my life have been different enough in appearance and lifestyle that I can't assume those things matter. What they had in common were intelligence, confidence, humor, compassion, and a mind of their own.

It's fun to look at people on a physical level, but that comes down to definitions that are pretty squirrely - what did you mean when you said "skinny"? One person's "big boobs" is another's "not enough". Whatever physical traits one thinks they prefer all fly out the window when confronted with a personality that lights you up.

I would add that reciprocality is pretty important. I might be interested in someone, but unless there's some indication that they are interested back, I don't think I would spend lots of time and effort trying to change that. I've heard those stories of not taking no for an answer, and I suppose that works when one is relatively youthful. I am now old enough to know things that I like, things that won't work, and just enough impatience to not feel the need to wait around to see if something changes.