Betina, you wrote,
"But my mom always said " if you have nothing nice to say .......don't say anything "
Well, if my mom had said that to me I would have told her to bug off. Just because what I have to say may not seem "nice" to someone else doesn't mean it's not worth saying. And I sure as hell don't want someone ELSE deciding what it is I should and should not say based on THEIR sensibilities.
When Valley Oak calls the public schools "pathetic and shitty" I assume he has his reasons for saying that. But how will you ever find out what HE means by "pathetic and shitty" if you're busy calling him to the principle's office about how he said it.
Your experience may be (probably is) different than his. You didn't like what he said or the way he said it. OK, FINE. And I didn't like YOURS! Do you see my point? We need to be able to say what we need to say the way we need to say it. And no one outside of ourself is going to be able to know what "the way I need to say it" is in any given case. The only POSSIBLE way that they might ever know what I really mean is if I DO say what I need to say the way i need to say it.
And there I've said it, but not like nothing further can be said....
Neil D.