Posted in reply to the post by msl:
I had originally responded to Alexia privately, as this is a long reply. I've decided to go public with it for a number of reasons, not the least of which is that...I've brought this subject up to several people over the past two days and the reaction is one of such anger and frustration that I really think everyone needs to get together and DO something about these situations! Everyone I spoke with had at least one long term experience with such animals and their dogs. (NOT a mistake, there.) (Sorry, animals... no offense.)
Anyway, the loss of sleep, the inability to enjoy one's own home/yard... it's just appalling that this happens, and, honestly, there really must be something that people can do. I know there is, but it involves people needing to realize that sometimes, ya hafta get mad! Because what I'm hearing from people is that no one wants to speak up/get involved.
Anyway, here's what I wrote:
Barking dogs are the bane of every neighborhood. Everyone has a story or two to tell about them. Everyone feels helpless to do anything.
No one can reason with these dogs’ owners. They simply don’t care/listen/understand. I really don’t get it. I honestly don’t know how they can sleep through it. I don’t know how it doesn’t drive them up the wall!.........
.....This little dog and its family is the talk of the neighborhood. I’ve known several people who’ve told me that they’d brought up the dog’s behavior to the owners in a polite and neighborly manner. I was actually surprised to hear that, because I thought I was the only one. ..... I think that’s one thing that made me so mad so that I ended up yelling at them, for the whole neighborhood to hear… that I knew I wasn’t the only one and that I was so frustrated for everyone else, too.
After that, I heard other people talking to them in a more vehement manner, and now they are better behaved. And I wonder about people who will only “be considerate” after having been yelled at…not when neighbors ask in a friendly fashion.
The thing is, although everyone talked about this dog, ... no one was willing to do anything.......
........Because, as you said, not only is it difficult to sleep, but, once the dog starts barking, even if it stops, or even if it’s midnight and the dog hasn’t barked yet, there’s an anxiety that is always there, and a truly good night’s sleep is impossible. Relaxation is impossible.
These kinds of neighbors are letting their dogs invade other peoples’ spaces… spaces that are OURS.
Even if they keep the dog out of my yard, even if they keep the dog from chasing after people in the streets… OUR streets, NOT the dog’s streets… they’re still willingly allowing their dogs and, by extension, themselves, to occupy MY space. They are forcing themselves on the rest of us.
I resent having to turn the music up in my own home to drown out the sound of a dog.
I resent having to put earplugs in to sleep in my own bedroom because the dog’s barking.
I resent going into my back yard to work in the garden and hearing the constant bark, bark, bark, yap,
yap, yap, instead of being able to hear the wind rustle the leaves and the birds chirping.
What to do about it?
I do know, as you probably do, too, that animal Control won’t take action on a barking complaint unless there are two people willing to complain. Which means you’d have to go around to your neighbors and try to get them on board. Which might be difficult because people complaining must be willing to say that they’ll testify in court. This scares people off.
These kinds of people… the barking dogs’ owners, do not seem to care about other people or about what other people think of them. They might even take pleasure in thinking that others are being bothered and sleepless because of them. There ARE twisted people in the world.
But say they’re not that devious. It sounds as if they may be because of their callousness. But say they’re just regular people. The only thing that might get them to stop is knowing that other neighbors are also being affected by the dogs. This means that other people are going to have to speak up. My experience is that they cannot speak up nicely; they have to let the dog owners know that they’re upset. And people don’t want to be bad neighbors, so they won’t let the dog owners know that they are upset.
The only other thing that stops some people is authority. Animal Control. But, unless you’ve got more than just barking going on, you alone cannot get Animal control to go out.
And the barking goes on. I cannot believe that you’re the only one in your neighborhood who is kept awake.
Well, you just asked what people thought about dog owners like that, and I’ve given you an earful. But I know you understand, and I understand your frustrations, and I wish I could help.
I’m replying privately, but if you think it would help your situation to post anything, let me know what that is, and I’ll do it, if you think it might help your neighbors’ selfish and lazy behaviors.
Louise
Good Luck, Alexis.