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    realfire
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    Busyness and the American Dream?

    It appears that the way we are living is anesthetizing us. Our society has defined itself by our excessive lifestyles and unnecessary spending. When I choose to be vulnerable to human suffering, it is not limited to the experience of poverty, but includes the more disguised suffering, that of self importance and material addiction

    Question: Is life defined by a racing from event to event (even if these activities are deemed familial/spiritual)?

    We medicate, meditate, massage and retreat to ease our suffering?

    Suffering is the stream that motivates us to know each other and ourselves.


    Question: Maybe busyness is fear’s mask?

    Symptoms of Busyness

    Question: Could busyness keep us from true intimacy?

    *Missed birthdays other holidays

    *Minimal time and energy for a real phone conversation with a friend

    *Sex is when your partner is asleep ( cyber……….. too tired to make love to your mate

    *One armed hugs

    *Rushed lunches with loved ones

    * Endless lunches with business associates

    *Being better at multi-tasking than being kind or present

    *Gratitude…thank you cards don’t sell as much as ten years ago

    *Taking moments to be truly grateful for all that you have, thanks for my life…

    *Complaining about how exhausting " doing Christmas " is

    Add three of your own symptoms here:

    Question: Maybe to know who you are time is imperative?

    Materialism Run Amok

    Our lives are filled with ornaments of distraction. Is it possible that the more expensive the toy the greater the distraction? Are we truly prospering if stress is the #1 killer. Monday 9 AM (highest incidence of heart attacks), According to Larry Dossey MD there were no other risk factors present for these heart attacks other than WORK (that word).

    Americans make up 5% of the overall population and yet we use 1/3 of its resources and half its hazardous waste. You might wonder where do we find the time to do all this damage, but we do.

    Question: How are you living to contribute to this, even with your recycling practice?

    Our consumerism puts luxuries out of reach for many families’ and children in America; never mind what we do to children in other countries. How do we aid and abed the discrimination of the poor? Love is free, we cannot continue to rape the world.

    Be rest assured that we, the spoiled ones, will either choose true compassion through sharing and vulnerability to world suffering OR nature will seek its inherent balance and the suffering will come closer and closer until we know each other’s pain intimately. Your causes won’t change this planet ………….YOU WILL.

    The State of the Nation and Hippie Politics

    If our individual actions are oblivious or apathetic to the daily suffering of others, what can we expect our political representation to mirror? We vacation in third world countries and pamper ourselves amidst human suffering. Why not make ¼ of your trip giving to the human race instead of just getting?

    The war that exists on the macrocosm exists in the microcosm. The war is in our consciousness and reflected back in our government. We all have our own shields and weapons to keep ourselves from feeling one another.

    Many people in Sonoma County (where I reside) profess to be hippies. However many of the original hippies didn’t shower and did not work. They had sex with each other, Loved and moved the energy for change with intent. Contemporary hippies wear 100-dollar tie-dye shirts and buy 50 yoga mats and go on thousand dollar retreats. I call this spiritual materialism. Hypocrisy at its best. Our lifestyles speak louder than our causes and organizations. If you want to be truly enlightened Feed People.

    Change comes form personal sacrifice. People have been starved and tortured for your freedom. What personal comforts would you be willing to sacrifice for the sake of a total stranger? America needs a time out , then a nap, and some lessons in how to share and play nice .


    YOUTH

    For the sake of all children let us slow down and feel each other. From birth children are enrolled in classes and have schedules. Our teenagers have 2 jobs before they even turn 18. What are we modeling?

    This generation suffers from an array of disorders / diseases associated with self-hatred or self-denial. Why? Children who act differently are medicated and diagnosed as somthing undesirable to our society. Question: Maybe normal is sick?

    The typical high school student looks like a carbon copy of another kid. Same hair, same values, same clothes, same drugs, same music, same sexual activity.

    " A child without courage is like a night without stars " Where is the courage in being like everyone else?

    Question: If we, as adults, had one wish, would it not be for more time?

    More time to love and play. Why burden our youth with the disease of busyness?
    Is the purpose so that they too will experience material gain and material expression?


    Antidote for the Busyness Coma

    (In no particular order)

    Skip a manicure and buy one for a homeless /struggling woman

    Have one less beer and buy lunch for homeless man

    Don’t leave your hair on the walls of public showers in our fancy gyms

    Say hello and ask people how they are and mean it (all people, not just the ones you judge to be worthy)

    Make eye contact in your local supermarket, make it everywhere and mean to send something kind to the other person

    Question needing VS wanting

    Really listen, not because you have to, to everyone

    Instruct and explain to your child that they must choose one luxury and give it away to someone on a weekly basis. Teach that giving is far better than getting

    Take a look at the police log in your local paper and Wake –UP to the things you can make better

    Choose a local cause that you do not have to be right about

    Sell an item of great value and change someone’s life with its worth

    Offer your services for free at lest 10% of the time

    Introspect on ALLL marketing and realize it is intrinsically deceptive

    Question why you NEED name brand items (maybe there is something lacking in your perception of the truth of which you are?)

    Ask, who would I be if all materialism disappeared from my reality?Reverse Consumerism. Can you say Balance?

    If nothing else was ever manufactured from this day forward, we already have enough for the next few generations. Spending as much as we do invites the astronomical prices we pay. (I.e. gas)

    We have the power to determine what we spend and how we spend it, this is great power .It seems that we just passively pay or we bitch and blame the government. Ultimately we choose our lives?

    What are you opting for?

    " We can be casualties of an individualist culture always striving on the myth of independence and self-making. We can choose to step out of the ghetto self making and re-create a world we are proud to call our own "


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  2. TopTop #2
    Conservative Cal
     

    Re: Busyness and the American Dream?

    It is true as a culture we are so busy we don’t take the time to create a life which have meaning and relevance. Sogyal Rinpoche speaks to this condition in The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying. He refers to it as “active laziness.” Thank you for your comments.
    Conservative Cal

    Quote Posted in reply to the post by realfire:
    It appears that the way we are living is anesthetizing us. Our society has defined itself by our excessive lifestyles and unnecessary spending. When I choose to be vulnerable to human suffering, it is not limited to the experience of poverty, but includes the more disguised suffering, that of self importance and material addiction

    Question: Is life defined by a racing from event to event (even if these activities are deemed familial/spiritual)?

    We medicate, meditate, massage and retreat to ease our suffering?

    Suffering is the stream that motivates us to know each other and ourselves.


    Question: Maybe busyness is fear’s mask?

    Symptoms of Busyness

    Question: Could busyness keep us from true intimacy?

    *Missed birthdays other holidays

    *Minimal time and energy for a real phone conversation with a friend

    *Sex is when your partner is asleep ( cyber……….. too tired to make love to your mate

    *One armed hugs

    *Rushed lunches with loved ones

    * Endless lunches with business associates

    *Being better at multi-tasking than being kind or present

    *Gratitude…thank you cards don’t sell as much as ten years ago

    *Taking moments to be truly grateful for all that you have, thanks for my life…

    *Complaining about how exhausting " doing Christmas " is

    Add three of your own symptoms here:

    Question: Maybe to know who you are time is imperative?

    Materialism Run Amok

    Our lives are filled with ornaments of distraction. Is it possible that the more expensive the toy the greater the distraction? Are we truly prospering if stress is the #1 killer. Monday 9 AM (highest incidence of heart attacks), According to Larry Dossey MD there were no other risk factors present for these heart attacks other than WORK (that word).

    Americans make up 5% of the overall population and yet we use 1/3 of its resources and half its hazardous waste. You might wonder where do we find the time to do all this damage, but we do.

    Question: How are you living to contribute to this, even with your recycling practice?

    Our consumerism puts luxuries out of reach for many families’ and children in America; never mind what we do to children in other countries. How do we aid and abed the discrimination of the poor? Love is free, we cannot continue to rape the world.

    Be rest assured that we, the spoiled ones, will either choose true compassion through sharing and vulnerability to world suffering OR nature will seek its inherent balance and the suffering will come closer and closer until we know each other’s pain intimately. Your causes won’t change this planet ………….YOU WILL.

    The State of the Nation and Hippie Politics

    If our individual actions are oblivious or apathetic to the daily suffering of others, what can we expect our political representation to mirror? We vacation in third world countries and pamper ourselves amidst human suffering. Why not make ¼ of your trip giving to the human race instead of just getting?

    The war that exists on the macrocosm exists in the microcosm. The war is in our consciousness and reflected back in our government. We all have our own shields and weapons to keep ourselves from feeling one another.

    Many people in Sonoma County (where I reside) profess to be hippies. However many of the original hippies didn’t shower and did not work. They had sex with each other, Loved and moved the energy for change with intent. Contemporary hippies wear 100-dollar tie-dye shirts and buy 50 yoga mats and go on thousand dollar retreats. I call this spiritual materialism. Hypocrisy at its best. Our lifestyles speak louder than our causes and organizations. If you want to be truly enlightened Feed People.

    Change comes form personal sacrifice. People have been starved and tortured for your freedom. What personal comforts would you be willing to sacrifice for the sake of a total stranger? America needs a time out , then a nap, and some lessons in how to share and play nice .


    YOUTH

    For the sake of all children let us slow down and feel each other. From birth children are enrolled in classes and have schedules. Our teenagers have 2 jobs before they even turn 18. What are we modeling?

    This generation suffers from an array of disorders / diseases associated with self-hatred or self-denial. Why? Children who act differently are medicated and diagnosed as somthing undesirable to our society. Question: Maybe normal is sick?

    The typical high school student looks like a carbon copy of another kid. Same hair, same values, same clothes, same drugs, same music, same sexual activity.

    " A child without courage is like a night without stars " Where is the courage in being like everyone else?

    Question: If we, as adults, had one wish, would it not be for more time?

    More time to love and play. Why burden our youth with the disease of busyness?
    Is the purpose so that they too will experience material gain and material expression?


    Antidote for the Busyness Coma

    (In no particular order)

    Skip a manicure and buy one for a homeless /struggling woman

    Have one less beer and buy lunch for homeless man

    Don’t leave your hair on the walls of public showers in our fancy gyms

    Say hello and ask people how they are and mean it (all people, not just the ones you judge to be worthy)

    Make eye contact in your local supermarket, make it everywhere and mean to send something kind to the other person

    Question needing VS wanting

    Really listen, not because you have to, to everyone

    Instruct and explain to your child that they must choose one luxury and give it away to someone on a weekly basis. Teach that giving is far better than getting

    Take a look at the police log in your local paper and Wake –UP to the things you can make better

    Choose a local cause that you do not have to be right about

    Sell an item of great value and change someone’s life with its worth

    Offer your services for free at lest 10% of the time

    Introspect on ALLL marketing and realize it is intrinsically deceptive

    Question why you NEED name brand items (maybe there is something lacking in your perception of the truth of which you are?)





    Ask, who would I be if all materialism disappeared from my reality?Reverse Consumerism. Can you say Balance?





    If nothing else was ever manufactured from this day forward, we already have enough for the next few generations. Spending as much as we do invites the astronomical prices we pay. (I.e. gas)



    We have the power to determine what we spend and how we spend it, this is great power .It seems that we just passively pay or we bitch and blame the government. Ultimately we choose our lives?

    What are you opting for?

    " We can be casualties of an individualist culture always striving on the myth of independence and self-making. We can choose to step out of the ghetto self making and re-create a world we are proud to call our own "
    Last edited by Barry; 08-15-2006 at 11:34 AM.
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  3. TopTop #3
    Dixon's Avatar
    Dixon
     

    Re: Busyness and the American Dream?

    Right on, and very well expressed!

    Love;
    Dixon

    Quote Posted in reply to the post by realfire:
    It appears that the way we are living is anesthetizing us. Our society has defined itself by our excessive lifestyles and unnecessary spending. When I choose to be vulnerable to human suffering, it is not limited to the experience of poverty, but includes the more disguised suffering, that of self importance and material addiction

    Question: Is life defined by a racing from event to event (even if these activities are deemed familial/spiritual)?

    We medicate, meditate, massage and retreat to ease our suffering?

    Suffering is the stream that motivates us to know each other and ourselves.


    Question: Maybe busyness is fear’s mask?

    Symptoms of Busyness

    Question: Could busyness keep us from true intimacy?

    *Missed birthdays other holidays

    *Minimal time and energy for a real phone conversation with a friend

    *Sex is when your partner is asleep ( cyber……….. too tired to make love to your mate

    *One armed hugs

    *Rushed lunches with loved ones

    * Endless lunches with business associates

    *Being better at multi-tasking than being kind or present

    *Gratitude…thank you cards don’t sell as much as ten years ago

    *Taking moments to be truly grateful for all that you have, thanks for my life…

    *Complaining about how exhausting " doing Christmas " is

    Add three of your own symptoms here:

    Question: Maybe to know who you are time is imperative?

    Materialism Run Amok

    Our lives are filled with ornaments of distraction. Is it possible that the more expensive the toy the greater the distraction? Are we truly prospering if stress is the #1 killer. Monday 9 AM (highest incidence of heart attacks), According to Larry Dossey MD there were no other risk factors present for these heart attacks other than WORK (that word).

    Americans make up 5% of the overall population and yet we use 1/3 of its resources and half its hazardous waste. You might wonder where do we find the time to do all this damage, but we do.

    Question: How are you living to contribute to this, even with your recycling practice?

    Our consumerism puts luxuries out of reach for many families’ and children in America; never mind what we do to children in other countries. How do we aid and abed the discrimination of the poor? Love is free, we cannot continue to rape the world.

    Be rest assured that we, the spoiled ones, will either choose true compassion through sharing and vulnerability to world suffering OR nature will seek its inherent balance and the suffering will come closer and closer until we know each other’s pain intimately. Your causes won’t change this planet ………….YOU WILL.

    The State of the Nation and Hippie Politics

    If our individual actions are oblivious or apathetic to the daily suffering of others, what can we expect our political representation to mirror? We vacation in third world countries and pamper ourselves amidst human suffering. Why not make ¼ of your trip giving to the human race instead of just getting?

    The war that exists on the macrocosm exists in the microcosm. The war is in our consciousness and reflected back in our government. We all have our own shields and weapons to keep ourselves from feeling one another.

    Many people in Sonoma County (where I reside) profess to be hippies. However many of the original hippies didn’t shower and did not work. They had sex with each other, Loved and moved the energy for change with intent. Contemporary hippies wear 100-dollar tie-dye shirts and buy 50 yoga mats and go on thousand dollar retreats. I call this spiritual materialism. Hypocrisy at its best. Our lifestyles speak louder than our causes and organizations. If you want to be truly enlightened Feed People.

    Change comes form personal sacrifice. People have been starved and tortured for your freedom. What personal comforts would you be willing to sacrifice for the sake of a total stranger? America needs a time out , then a nap, and some lessons in how to share and play nice .


    YOUTH

    For the sake of all children let us slow down and feel each other. From birth children are enrolled in classes and have schedules. Our teenagers have 2 jobs before they even turn 18. What are we modeling?

    This generation suffers from an array of disorders / diseases associated with self-hatred or self-denial. Why? Children who act differently are medicated and diagnosed as somthing undesirable to our society. Question: Maybe normal is sick?

    The typical high school student looks like a carbon copy of another kid. Same hair, same values, same clothes, same drugs, same music, same sexual activity.

    " A child without courage is like a night without stars " Where is the courage in being like everyone else?

    Question: If we, as adults, had one wish, would it not be for more time?

    More time to love and play. Why burden our youth with the disease of busyness?
    Is the purpose so that they too will experience material gain and material expression?


    Antidote for the Busyness Coma

    (In no particular order)

    Skip a manicure and buy one for a homeless /struggling woman

    Have one less beer and buy lunch for homeless man

    Don’t leave your hair on the walls of public showers in our fancy gyms

    Say hello and ask people how they are and mean it (all people, not just the ones you judge to be worthy)

    Make eye contact in your local supermarket, make it everywhere and mean to send something kind to the other person

    Question needing VS wanting

    Really listen, not because you have to, to everyone

    Instruct and explain to your child that they must choose one luxury and give it away to someone on a weekly basis. Teach that giving is far better than getting

    Take a look at the police log in your local paper and Wake –UP to the things you can make better

    Choose a local cause that you do not have to be right about

    Sell an item of great value and change someone’s life with its worth

    Offer your services for free at lest 10% of the time

    Introspect on ALLL marketing and realize it is intrinsically deceptive

    Question why you NEED name brand items (maybe there is something lacking in your perception of the truth of which you are?)

    Ask, who would I be if all materialism disappeared from my reality?Reverse Consumerism. Can you say Balance?

    If nothing else was ever manufactured from this day forward, we already have enough for the next few generations. Spending as much as we do invites the astronomical prices we pay. (I.e. gas)

    We have the power to determine what we spend and how we spend it, this is great power .It seems that we just passively pay or we bitch and blame the government. Ultimately we choose our lives?

    What are you opting for?

    " We can be casualties of an individualist culture always striving on the myth of independence and self-making. We can choose to step out of the ghetto self making and re-create a world we are proud to call our own "


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  4. TopTop #4
    Ahlia
    Guest

    Re: Busyness and the American Dream?

    We are anxious when our skill level is low and our challenges are high, we are bored the other way around, but prefer this state to anxious. We think in order to remidy the bordom we will pack a lot of boring, challengless activities into our days. Then, we are too busy to pay any attention to challenging activities such as meaningful conversations and connecting with our interests and bringing our close attention to every small detail of our existences. Yes we are busy and bored and living the "American Dream". Our dreams lie in shifting our attention to the details, in noticing.
    Quote Posted in reply to the post by Conservative Cal:
    It is true as a culture we are so busy we don’t take the time to create a life which have meaning and relevance. Sogyal Rinpoche speaks to this condition in The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying. He refers to it as “active laziness.” Thank you for your comments.
    Conservative Cal

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