Parents and Children

[green1706]

What is the ideal relationship between parents and children? This relationship should be more severe, parents imposing their terms automatically, or should it be a friendship? In the latter case, if the child benefit from parents' indulgence and do something stupid? I know that the situation varies from case to case, but I speak in general. My husband and I get ready to be parents again, we want to adopt for the first time, and therefore we want more opinions. So, what do you think?

[Dram]

Childhoods end is a good book to introduce a parents ultimate duty in maintaining a childs constant contact with their peers. There is a mind people are born to by their timing, their peers are the members of the society they will grow into.

Kahil Gibran said this best. " You are the bows, they the arrows, you shoot into a future you will not see"

Their peers are their future, do not separate them, but ride herd, let your architecture develop so they can have their friends over and stay forever.

Beware of the role of parent that you do not cement yourself so tight to it they don't have the opportunity to parent you

they are by by birth holding things important to that future you are not a part of nor equipped for

children cannot learn to be human they are provoked to it...

long live the village island

What is the ideal relationship between parents and children? This relationship should be more severe, parents imposing their terms automatically, or should it be a friendship? In the latter case, if the child benefit from parents' indulgence and do something stupid? I know that the situation varies from case to case, but I speak in general. My husband and I get ready to be parents again, we want to adopt for the first time, and therefore we want more opinions. So, what do you think?

[soulsk8ter77]

HI, We had a baby after being married for 20 years. I was a clueless mom.

I had a strong career and an underground skatepark at the same time. So
I felt a little over whelmed with this tiny, helpless, beautiful child.

I found the Positive parenting books were the most helpful. They have
a whole series of books for every age.

Another good book is the *5 Love Languages of children*. This will be for
when your child gets a little older.

Last but not least the book *Touchpoints* by a famous Doctor. (I can't remember his name it something like Brazelton.) is another good book
that walks you though different stages.

Another series of books is *your 1 year old wild and wonderful* or something
like that. The have a book for each year of their lives up to 12 years old.
The books are done by the Gestaldt instuite or something like that. The public Library has all of them. Search under 1 year old behavior book.

I was terrifed during my pregnancy and so was my husband but as soon as
that baby is handed over to you the mama tiger in you will kick in and
you will be surprised how soon you fall into the baby rhythm and you
will never look back....and if you do you can't imagine your life without
that little soulmate. It have been 11 wonderful years for us. I am a stay
at home mom and loving every minute.

Missy