Posted in reply to the post by podfish:
I guess you won't see this, nanseegee, but how's this for a more gentle restatement:
It's patronizing and offensive when you refuse to accept people's statements at face value. I don't like it when it's done to me. Don't you think that even if they wanted to lie about their real meaning once they've realized it might offend someone, it wouldn't fool anyone anyway?
So how 'bout accepting what they actually said instead of pretending they're really on your side?