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dear linda im a 23 year old newlywed & to my bad luck ive been experiencing premature ejacualation, which means that in 15-20 seconds i have a orgasm. this is frustrating me , & especially my spouse. now im not interested in going to docters or clinics so i would appriciate if you could give me some advice, something that i could do in the confines of my home.
thanks,
mike
What a great title....no offense....but it doesn't get any better than that....I should start all my posts on Craigslist's with "Sexual Problem"
Seriously....not laughing at your expense....honestly.
Here's a few things cheap and worth a try....
Chinese herbs.....
For starter's....you could pick some green blackberries now before they ripen....get a half a pound or more.....and dry them....not hard........and then try drinking a tea made of a handful daily......cheap and local astringent/sexual tonic for men....
also Schizandra berries/capsules, etc might be worth a try..
or if you can afford it go to an Acupuncturist/herbalist who can formulate something just right for you........
Ashwaganda also totally rocks as a sexual tonic and is mentioned for the condition discussed....go over to Rosemary's Garden and get some there....might have some other suggestions there too...
Try EFT...there's a workshop listed on Wacco right now....
Here's a link to a few other herbs used for male enhancement as well....and well, you know you can always just GOOGLE IT.
Herbal Remedies for Premature Ejaculation Build Sexual Confidence
Hey Brother,
One thing I found very helpful is yoga and breathing practice. Check out The Breathing Book by Donna Farhi.
Also, marijuana, or any intoxicant for that matter, may not help, as well as anything that limits the clarity of your digestive fire.
Good for you for reaching out and having the willingness to work on your self. Of course, your sexual problem is not your self, but the willingness you have will always be helpful, regardless of the problem.
Loving yourself, feeling good about yourself, your body, your emotions, is also part of this.
Our sexual experience in the present moment is ever-changing, like all experience, so there if there were one solution only, in my opinion, it would be staying present with what is in the moment, with an open heart to your partner and yourself.
Best to You Friend
Masturbate 30 minutes before you have sex with your wife.
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I have been there, and in my experience(vast) I can say that it was brought on by
1 insecurity of some sort,on my behalf,or caused by the relationship (so what you came!that's what we're here for if she comes,its a whoo hoo) )she has no patience to wait
to get going again?) other causes can be "theres a huge tricky approach to sex with this woman,so when you finally get there your body is like NOW do it NOW!!so she won't get away.... some guys can go forever with real slutty "bad girls" but come instantaneously with "victorian"girls or women they view as "special" or a good score.
2 Then the WOMAN also needs to learn to tone down her heat,feel the energy and help u stay present.Use eye contact!!
3 Practice,with kinky pictures(masturbate((You won't go blind)) then with a pic of your wife(her face) and RIDE that edge!!believe me
you are going to learn to ,and will be able to COME without squitrting,and lozing your "chi"(energy that keeps you hard) for up to an hour!!
Study Tantra:Yinyangv:,there is a great local school, lots of old hands (literally) and breath is key.You CAN do this and when you do, you will
get her off dozens of times, and be ready for more..
4 OH and I almost forgot,dude you have a hottie, do her every way accept the normal way,get her off before you go in fingers(you probably have 10)
tongue nose,toys get crazy!:banana: I slip in a warm glass dildo and my girl does not even know!!! just for fun,but you could do it to give your guy a breather!!
warm is key here!
time to relax and have FUN lucky guy
I am a prostate cancer survivor. as a result I have lingering problems with ED. I have not dealt with this issue as I do not have anyone in my life at this time. I am sure some things will improve as a result of having a partner who cares and is willing to find ways to make our love life work.
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go to a sex shop and check out the penis pump and cock rings. the cock ring will keep it up until you are finished having sex.,
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Also try using condoms. The "her pleasure" type are good for both of you; the ones that have a small amount of numbing gel on the inside may also help slow you down (skip the topical gels). Be careful the latter type does not slide forward as your partner may get numbed up a bit too... not exactly the desired effect.
The previous comments about breathing and learning to pace yourself are valid and worthwhile. This type of practice can be helpful in other areas of life, too.
Prematurity, along with ED and to a lesser extent the inability to finish at all, is a common problem in men who (big suprise) were circumcised, especially if done in infancy or early childhood. If you and your foreskin are no longer together, you should give serious consideration to "tugging" to restore. The gliding/slinking action of the more "natural" loose skin really makes the whole experience better for both of you. Mother Nature is a smart old broad.
This guy can help you get started: Ron of TLC Tugger https://tlctugger.com/
Also visit NORM https://norm.org/index.html
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