Posted in reply to the post by StillRiver:
Hey Brother,
One thing I found very helpful is yoga and breathing practice. Check out The Breathing Book by Donna Farhi.
Also, marijuana, or any intoxicant for that matter, may not help, as well as anything that limits the clarity of your digestive fire.
Good for you for reaching out and having the willingness to work on your self. Of course, your sexual problem is not your self, but the willingness you have will always be helpful, regardless of the problem.
Loving yourself, feeling good about yourself, your body, your emotions, is also part of this.
Our sexual experience in the present moment is ever-changing, like all experience, so there if there were one solution only, in my opinion, it would be staying present with what is in the moment, with an open heart to your partner and yourself.
Best to You Friend