NorseViking869
08-15-2009, 04:20 PM
Jealousy is like a bad apple that spoils an otherwise perfect bunch. The pain caused by jealousy is far worse that the pain caused at the end of a flogger on bare skin. It is a pain that is caused by loss. The loss of T.L.C.(Trust, love and comfort).
When we are jealous we are not trusting of those we are with. We are projecting either past demons or our own issues that may seem less than trust worthy whether they are acted upon or not.
When we are jealous, we are not acting with love. We are acting out of control. We want to control our lives and we are supposed too, but no matter how much we want to, we can not control the lives of others (without consent). Even if our feelings for someone are genuine and are filled with love, jealousy is filled with hate. The hate of lack of control.
When we are jealous,we are miserable and uncomfortable. We make those we love and our friends uncomfortable and miserable too. No wonder friends and lovers want time away from the jealous brat(even if that time is infinite).
Jealousy destroys the three things required not only for relationships but especially for BDSM. Without T.L.C., how can we function as play partners in scene? How can we trust someone who is jealous? How can we love them? How can we feel comfortable around them? The answer is simply, we can't.
Reading Chapter 13 of Ethical Slut (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1587613379/ref=pd_lpo_k2_dp_sr_1/178-6465532-0712207?pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_s=lpo-top-stripe-1&pf_rd_r=1JYW3XMQX91TKBS1EC40&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_p=304485901&pf_rd_i=1890159018) by Dossie Easton (https://www.dossieeaston.com/) and doing all the exercises alone and with your partner is a must for any couple or single, Poly or otherwise especially if you are part of the BDSM crowd. It is a great way to change your life and the live(s) of your partner(s) for the better.
When we are jealous we are not trusting of those we are with. We are projecting either past demons or our own issues that may seem less than trust worthy whether they are acted upon or not.
When we are jealous, we are not acting with love. We are acting out of control. We want to control our lives and we are supposed too, but no matter how much we want to, we can not control the lives of others (without consent). Even if our feelings for someone are genuine and are filled with love, jealousy is filled with hate. The hate of lack of control.
When we are jealous,we are miserable and uncomfortable. We make those we love and our friends uncomfortable and miserable too. No wonder friends and lovers want time away from the jealous brat(even if that time is infinite).
Jealousy destroys the three things required not only for relationships but especially for BDSM. Without T.L.C., how can we function as play partners in scene? How can we trust someone who is jealous? How can we love them? How can we feel comfortable around them? The answer is simply, we can't.
Reading Chapter 13 of Ethical Slut (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1587613379/ref=pd_lpo_k2_dp_sr_1/178-6465532-0712207?pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_s=lpo-top-stripe-1&pf_rd_r=1JYW3XMQX91TKBS1EC40&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_p=304485901&pf_rd_i=1890159018) by Dossie Easton (https://www.dossieeaston.com/) and doing all the exercises alone and with your partner is a must for any couple or single, Poly or otherwise especially if you are part of the BDSM crowd. It is a great way to change your life and the live(s) of your partner(s) for the better.