CL personal ad and the email transcript

[wunda]

I posted a personal ad on Craigs List in the women seeking men section. It was a thought provoking comentary on sexual attraction and an invitation for intersted parties to reply. Here's the ad for reference.

https://sfbay.craigslist.org/nby/w4m/903060420.html

I got a few good responses, and one person in particular who I look forward to meeting . The following is an email transcript of one man who didnt have a clue..... Please comment or just laugh, even if it is at my expense. LOL

btw- i changed the identy of this poor misguided man and used my wacco name to protect anonymity of the unenlightened and the silly.
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From: M
To: Wunda
Sent: Wednesday, November 5, 2008 9:48:54 AM
Subject:

hi


From: Wunda
To: M
Sent: Wednesday, November 5, 2008 9:55:06 AM
Subject: Re:


hi? more please.

From: M
To: Wunda
Sent: Wednesday, November 5, 2008 9:56:47 AM
Subject: Re:


ask me what more do you have pics?



From: Wunda
To: M
Sent: Wednesday, November 5, 2008 10:05:57 AM
Subject: Re:

See, i envision these exchanges in the following order.

1. i post
2. you reply with some information about what is interesting about my post and a little about you.
3. i then reply back with gratitude for your email, a bit of banter, some additional information etc, and maybe a pic

but if you start out with "hi" and then want me to start... gee i have no where to go yet. Lets start over. We are on step 2 and its your turn! heheheheh ;)


From: M
To: Wunda
Sent: Wednesday, November 5, 2008 10:08:31 AM
Subject: Re:

hi again this is c n im lookin for a nice ladie to talk, so where are you from n what do you do fo living?






From: Wunda
To: M
Sent: Wednesday, November 5, 2008 10:12:46 AM
Subject: Re:


Hi M,

nice to meet you. i am a nice lady. i live in sr and work in mental health. now, back to step two, you missed some essential details again...(gee this is fun) This is where you say a bit about what was interesting about my post and a bit about yourself. fortunately for you, i am also a patient lady.

Wunda




From: M
To: Wunda
Sent: Wednesday, November 5, 2008 10:20:51 AM
Subject: Re:


well if you want you can call me at (number deleted)




To: Wunda
From M
Sent:Wednesday, November 5, 2008 10:29:31 AM
Subject

M! you are way ahead of yourself! funny. back to step 2.

This is what to do in step 2 as i reminded you minutes ago: you reply with some information about what is interesting about my post and a little about you


Wunda



From: M
To: Wunda
Sent: Wednesday, November 5, 2008 10:50:44 AM
Subject:

ok what do you do for fun n waht are you lookin for . what part of santarosa are you in?



To: M
From Wunda
Sent: Wednesday, November 5, 2008 11:10:50 AM
Subject:

M!

Still avoiding step 2 ehh? Please tell me what made you want to reply to my ad, and a bit about yourself.

Until then, all answers i give you will be lies made up on the spot. For instance: for fun i eat worms directly from my garden, I am looking for the prince of egypt and I live at the main adult detention facility.

Now, still patiently waiting for you answer my questions... ahh... perhaps you have forgotten which ad your replied to. Is that it?

Wunda


From: M
To: Wunda
Sent: Wednesday, November 5, 2008 10:52:16 AM
Subject:

how do you look like?



To: M
From: Wunda
Sent: Wednesday, November 5, 2008 11:11:54 AM
Subject

I am short, fat and hairy chested. lol

From: M
To: Wunda
Sent: Wednesday, November 5, 2008 5:10:55 PM
Subject:

are you a man? or a woman?.. tel me about you what do you do for fun.. do you have a wild side?


From: Wunda
To: M
Sent: Wednesday, November 5, 2008 5:35:10 PM
Subject:

M!

Still haven't figured out what ad you are responding to ehh? LOL I am a woman... and really if you aren't willing to answer my questions then what is the point? So, start talking about yourself and why you responded to my ad.

Wunda


From: M
To: Wunda
Sent: Wednesday, November 5, 2008 5:54:26 PM
Subject:

well im a nice guy who loves to have a good time n about ur ad i think u are a nice girl who may want to talk or meet later. so did i past the tex?




From: Wunda
To: M
Sent: Wednesday, November 5, 2008 6:15:35 PM
Subject: Re:

It really isn't a test.... Its just good manners to actually reply to the ad and then talk about yourself. I put effort into writing it, and people who respond usually find my comments thought provoking in some way. Otherwise, why respond at all?

As far as talking or meeting, I would want to do that with someone after learning a bit about what specifically inspired the communication. Think about this from a woman's perspective. I wouldnt want to give my number out or meet just anyone. These responses help both parties evaluate what to do next.

I hope this explaination helps. Maybe our emails will be little more than a learning experience. Or perhaps it won't even be that. Hmm.

Wunda
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Heheh i know already that i could have stopped replying, but his refusal to answer my question was so amusing for a while. I won't be replying to any more of his emails.

Perhaps i need some to get a date from our wonderful pool of waccos instead.

[MsTerry]

LOL
You should have told him that for a fee you can teach him how to talk to Ladies!
And as a bonus, you'll show the difference between texting and emails.

[wunda]

LOL
You should have told him that for a fee you can teach him how to talk to Ladies!
And as a bonus, you'll show the difference between texting and emails.


Now there's a business that would be easy to get into and hard to get out of. But I suppose we could all use a lesson or two in how to communicate. Except, I woudl have to say for a friend of mine. She met someone online and then in person. He brought her flowers and after a few strategic questions about marital status and relationships, she ended up handing the bouquet back and suggesting that he go home to his wife.

Dating is a crazy world today. Should I stop now before it's too late?

[wunda]

Thanks for the gratitude.. I'd love to hear comments! btw... he is still emailing me though i dont respond.

[shellebelle]

I was laughing!

I too get these. I don't do CL because it's worse there but even on OKC I have them.

And yes I now do actually offer to teach them (via email) how to communicate with women and how to date.

If for some reason they are beyond my skill level I have several friends I pass them off to who have more knowledge and training in communication coaching. We (the team) also have a list of professional therapists for the really needy who need beyond coaching and need to meet with someone.

In todays society proper communication skills are desperately required just to maintain your job. I suspect in a few months I'll have more coaching jobs than I know what to do with and so will the team I have put together.

[Sylph]

What a needed service to provide, Shelley!
If people only realized how unattractive they appear on the screen with mispellings, bad grammar, no punctuation, etc, they would try harder to get it right or get some help! They may be smart and have something of value to say, but they come across like slobs.

It's even worse when the respondent doesn't listen or respond in the manner requested....by repeatedly ignoring the most simple requests...
You have to wonder what kind of relationship is this person capable of? Will he even be able to engage in a conversation?
A guy with communication skills like the guy in the above thread should just go back to bars to try to meet women.


Thanks for posting the thread...made me giggle!

[shellebelle]

LOL I do all those things on here.

But I agree it is about listening and responding to the conversation thats happening not the one in your own head.



What a needed service to provide, Shelley!
If people only realized how unattractive they appear on the screen with mispellings, bad grammar, no punctuation, etc, they would try harder to get it right or get some help! They may be smart and have something of value to say, but they come across like slobs.

It's even worse when the respondent doesn't listen or respond in the manner requested....by repeatedly ignoring the most simple requests...
You have to wonder what kind of relationship is this person capable of? Will he even be able to engage in a conversation?
A guy with communication skills like the guy in the above thread should just go back to bars to try to meet women.


Thanks for posting the thread...made me giggle!

[wunda]

fascinating! i cant imagine spending that much time coaching someone. i thought i was being kind by explaining things so many times. At first, i thought he was playing around, coyly refusing to follow the online ritual of introduction.... but I was wrong.

Any guys out there with a perspective? Should I have been easier on him?

[Braggi]

... Any guys out there with a perspective? Should I have been easier on him?

Oh no. You should have played with him as long as you got a little pleasure from it or learned something. You had no obligation to do anything for him. He was obviously doing nothing for you. As I understand it a lot of the "cruising" guys on CL are just there to collect pictures. All the more fun if the person giving them up does so innocently. You did just fine.

Thanks for sharing it with us.

BTW, it was cool that you were joking with him and I don't think you ever really got nasty like a lot of people would have.

-Jeff

[wunda]

Thanks Jeff. Anyone else?

I wouldn't have been mean, it just isnt my style.

Recommendations anyone?

[MsTerry]

Hmmmmmmmmmm, Jeff
very interesting perspective.
You're not speaking from personal experience now, are you?


As I understand it a lot of the "cruising" guys on CL are just there to collect pictures. All the more fun if the person giving them up does so innocently. You did just fine.
BTW, it was cool that you were joking with him and I don't think you ever really got nasty like a lot of people would have.

-Jeff

[NudeTea]

Thanks Jeff. Anyone else?

I wouldn't have been mean, it just isnt my style.

Recommendations anyone?

Recommendations.... hmmmm .... at first I was just going to comment or laugh in appreciation. But an open door for an actual recommendation now? LOL

Dating can be a lot like a science experiment. You mix a bottle of a known substance with a tube of .. an unknown specimen... and you hope for a Noble prize while also shielding your eyes cuz ya know it's really just going to explode.

I'm glad to see you posted this transcript so we could all enjoy the blast. It was a hoot. My recommendation would be to take notes, write a book about it.

[wunda]

More adventures in Craig's List dating:

This time I wasnt actually looking for a date. I was cruising the "freebies" section, when i saw an ad for a FREE iPhone. And, almost ended up with a date, not sure i wanted one though. Below are the transcripts. Again I have changed the names and identifying details to protect everyone's privacy.

I am curious though, Should I have just gone for it?
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To: Z
From: Wunda
Subject: Really a free iphone?

Whats the catch?



From: Z
To: Wunda
Re: Really a free iphone?

the catch is to go out on a dinner date on my birthday. lol


From: Wunda
To: Z
Re: Reallya free iphone?

funny! but not out of the question. lol. so i take it the ad is a joke then?


From: Z
To: Wunda
Re: Really a free iphone?

no. free but go out on a dinner date, my birthday..... interested? i am paying for the dinner....

From: Wunda
To: Z
Re: Reallya free iphone?

hehe. u must tell me more about yourself... and you must want to know something about me too first? I mean what if i have scales or something?


From: Z
To: Wunda
Re: Really a free iphone?

scales are fine with me. this might be serendipity....


From: Wunda
To: Z
Re: Reallya free iphone?

well it certainly brings a smile to my face...

so when is this birthday?


From: Z
To: Wunda
Re: Really a free iphone?


are you really wise? [this comment refers to my email id "wiseshan"]


Are you interested? I would love to make you smile more...


From: Wunda
To: Z
Re: Reallya free iphone?

i have been called that.... but really it comes from connecting a few choice syllables from my first and last name.

and having never seen a free iphone on cl, nor been offered a dinner date from inquiring about such, I do find this line of conversation amusing at the very least.

I am about to take my scaley self out of the house in a bit, but await your reply.


From: Z
To: Wunda
Re: Really a free iphone?

Wunda,

You seem to be a smart woman. Was Mr. Einstein your great, great great.... grandfather? I would love to meet you and hand over the iphone. It has been a long time, since I had a nice conversation with a smart gal.

Let us find out where the serendipity takes us. Hope you are single.

From: Wunda
To: Z
Re: Reallya free iphone?

Hi Z,

I am smart... though wondering if its a lapse in my good judgement to do this. perhaps not, under the right circumstances. . btw... i am not desperate for an iphone, but thought the ad was funny.

I am single and prone to spontanaity (terrible speller at times). tell me more about you, ask a few questions and lets see what happens.

btw.. since you don't mind the scales, i am wondering if the fur and feathers would be problematic as well? for the most part, i can keep my oversized canine teeth hidden during the meal, but the feathers might draw attention to our table.

Wunda

********* so i had to go out and run an errand and when i came back an hour later i got this reply:


From: Z
To: Wunda
Re: Really a free iphone?

loll. funny woman.


********and i immediately responded with:
From:
To: Z
Re: Really a free iphone?

so no birthday dinner then? gee.


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Still haven't gotten an answer. Perhaps i am not spontanious enough. That is okay really, because i did meet someone from my ad who's company I enjoy.

Glad you folks are appreciating my adventures... I am laughing twice as much at these experiences when i can share them with my beloved waccos! Comment away!