When you write to a guy and you ask him a question...

[Lorrie]

Why is it, that when you ask men questions, they don't answer your questions, but move on to other things as though you never asked it.

I do not have this problem with women.

Not one guy. Many men. I would write to a guy and ask some questions... and then they write back with only answering maybe one of the questions.

You think it is a short attention span?

This even happens sometimes in person...
You ask a question and a question is asked to answer....???


I don't get it.:hmmm:

[Lenny]

Why is it, that when you ask men questions, they don't answer your questions, but move on to other things as though you never asked it.
I do not have this problem with women.
Not one guy. Many men. I would write to a guy and ask some questions... and then they write back with only answering maybe one of the questions.
You think it is a short attention span?
This even happens sometimes in person...
You ask a question and a question is asked to answer....??? I don't get it.:hmmm:

You are not alone in "getting it". We used to call it "rude" when one didn't answer a question, but then the questions became rude, and/or personal. So silence may be appropriate, if uncomfortable.
As for myself, I may not answer, or the answer I give at the moment is to put off the questioner, and then I will think about the question, the person, what they "really" wanted to know, and ponder it for MONTHS, then it is really strange when I go back to that person to respond. And then they've no idea of what I am speaking, as they forgot it, or put it off. Talk about EMBARRASSING.
But that is life on the dull edge! :2cents:

[Lorrie]

Well, Lenny... wouldn't it be easier to tell the questioner that you can not give them an answer, or you can say, I need to think about it I will get back to you ... or some such answer. Stead of leaving it hanging out there in the abyss, so that the questioner may think you are ignoring them or something like that?


You are not alone in "getting it". We used to call it "rude" when one didn't answer a question, but then the questions became rude, and/or personal. So silence may be appropriate, if uncomfortable.
As for myself, I may not answer, or the answer I give at the moment is to put off the questioner, and then I will think about the question, the person, what they "really" wanted to know, and ponder it for MONTHS, then it is really strange when I go back to that person to respond. And then they've no idea of what I am speaking, as they forgot it, or put it off. Talk about EMBARRASSING.
But that is life on the dull edge! :2cents:

[Zeno Swijtink]

Why is it, that when you ask men questions, they don't answer your questions, but move on to other things as though you never asked it.

I do not have this problem with women.

Yes, you don't get it at all. Guys are for gluing the heels back on your shoes, and for potty training that dog of yours.

[Melodymama]

Okay, now there are some answers from guys. It seems you guys now hide behind the "you are right, you don't get it or us." And there is still no new information offered. How does a woman get to know a man if he is not forthcoming on his own and also does not answer questions? Inquiring minds want to know. Laura

[shellebelle]

Interesting question being a woman who tends to get answers I have a perspective that may differ.

When a man doesn't answer I often find he thinks there is a "right" answer and his is not it. So instead of being wrong, corrected or hurting someone he simply chooses the "neutral" of no answer.

Then of course there is the big one! Your question required more time, focus and energy than what he had at the moment to share so he waited but didn't want you to think he was ignoring you so he answered partially but didn't verbalize it. Ask again; maybe in person; if you really want to be in communication.

I often will ask the same question several times before it gets answered and I don't find that offensive. I am not any mans "world" I expect him to have other things to do and responsibilities that need to be met. My question may get back burnered for that all important "job", "child" etc and then may simply remain overlooked. I don't mind. If its important I'll ask it again. If its not I may overlook it myself.



Now as far as forth coming. My experience has been that men get attacked a lot (being bi I can honestly say there are a lot of hostile women in the world and even more with drama) and when men aren't being attacked personally they are frequently hearing women attack their ex's or currents. So why would a man want to open his mouth? They wait until they feel safe to "open up" or be "forth coming". When they are forth coming early on they are many times labeled "aggressive", "emo" etc.


On getting to know a man. Well watch, listen and enjoy. Do you have to know his entire family history on the first meet? Or he yours? Not thats that is bad just that I find there are women who "require" that info and darn if he's still feeling out your safety he may not want to spill. Can you enjoy hearing about his hobbies then if its a new subject for you doing a bit of research to be able to ask questions and be a bit more informed the next time? Do you follow up with a "hey how was . . . ?"

I think I am a fairly safe woman. Men often tell me WAY more than they do other women and often right away. My face reflects my reaction instantly. I make a horrible poker player on the other hand I think I end up with a certain kudos when I try with words to be open and ask questions. Other times I close right up and have4 to re-open myself and that for me is frustrating! And for the other person (male or female) well its just not a good feeling



How does a woman get to know a man if he is not forthcoming on his own and also does not answer questions? Inquiring minds want to know. Laura

[Lorrie]

Please, the questions I am asking are not that hard and definately not drama filled.

Simple questions asked every day... "How is your day going" or asking a basic question about what they have been talking to me about... or when I am trying to organize something. "what will you bring?" Can you make it? or What time will you be there or... These are not good examples....I am trying to think of an example and can't right now...but I will later... it will probably happen again. Maybe they don't find them important enough to answer?

Mostly the occassion is them asking a question to answer a question.

I feel like I am putting out the effort to communicate, to find interest in what the personman is conversing with me about. I also feel that my question is ignored even though I am truly interested in whatever the answer is; or I wouldn't have asked in the first place. It is not as often in person mostly in emails...

I understand what you are saying Shelley.

It kinda makes me feel disrespected though, like I am not worth the time to supply an answer. And that bothers me cause I really want to know the answer to the questions I ask or seriously I wouldn't ask them.

Another thing that happens (to me) and this is with women or men... I will talking to someone about something important to me, or be telling a story about something that happened, and they will change their focus to another or something, right in the middle of me talking to them. I am just left with "uhhh?" What happened? I was talking...
Sometimes they will leave me to talk to another ...altogether.
Sometimes they will say, "I'm sorry what?" but not pay attention if I try to give it another go. Sometimes they will just not acknowledge that I have spoken to them.
Now I probably wouldn't have brought this up, but it matters to me.

I can't help but wonder why?

Do you supposed its because I have nothing interesting to say? Do you suppose what they have to talk to the other person about is more important...? Well, if that is the case couldn't they excuse themselves first instead of just leaving in the middle of me telling....I am not around a lot, but the other people are...you know?

I am kind of a loner, and not a whole lot happens to me cause I don't have money to spend and I don't drive. But sometimes something neat happens and I want to tell my "friends"...and you know the rest..

Instead of adding to this problem (if you are still reading that is) you got any advice to avoid this happening to me in the future? Seriously.

Take your time I know there are alot of questions... Please read the questions don't interpret them they are asked exactly. I truly want to know the answers to these quesitons.

Boy! I can't wait to see what you all say to this...but its all true!

[shellebelle]

I think your questions are great examples. And I think I have some potential answers.

I don't answer every question in an email. I handle about 100 emails a day maybe more. I don't have that type of time.

I have a small child who needs me so I have period where I just don't respond at all.

With so many emails if I have read the email and not marked it, then I get interrupted, then I forget to go back to it. I don't mean to its just life!

And these are just my top three for missing questions; I also read too fast, have a life outside of email, my extended family is large and sometimes someone of greater importance does come around (sorry but its true), etc.

:Yinyangv: :Yinyangv: :Yinyangv: :Yinyangv: :Yinyangv:

Well I can think of a few potential things you could look at when it comes to conversations.

What are your hobbies? If you don't invest in yourself no one else will. Hobbies are investments in self.

They don't have to be costly - hiking, walking, knitting, photography are some I have always done no matter what my income was. Then there is reading. A trip to the library (again minimal costs involved) might be in order for you! Choose books that guys might be or have told you they enjoyed.

I have had you tell me "I am basically lazy." - okay I am not - if you are lazy why would I want that energy around me?

That brings me to energy - you don't exude the type of energy many people are working towards or with. If you did you would never describe yourself as lazy!

Energy is very important. Passion, happiness and positives are just a few key components to a healthy life.

In Law of Attractiont here is two quotes I think apply from Abraham Hickes!

Being happy is the cornerstone of all that you are! Nothing is more important than that you feel good! And you have absolute and utter control about that because you can choose the thought that makes you worry or the thought that makes you happy; the things that thrill you, or the things that worry you. You have the choice in every moment.
Excerpted from a workshop in Sacramento, CA on Saturday, March 15th, 2003
All Is Well


The Universe is not punishing you or blessing you. The Universe is responding to the vibrational attitude that you are emitting. The more joyful you are, the more Well-being flows to you -- and you get to choose the details of how it flows

Excerpted from a workshop in Phoenix, AZ on Saturday, February 24th, 2001
All Is Well




I can't help but wonder why?

Do you supposed its because I have nothing interesting to say? Do you suppose what they have to talk to the other person about is more important...? Well, if that is the case couldn't they excuse themselves first instead of just leaving in the middle of me telling....I am not around a lot, but the other people are...you know?


Boy! I can't wait to see what you all say to this...but its all true!

[thewholetruth]

"Being happy is the cornerstone of all that you are! Nothing is more important than that you feel good!"

And if it makes you feel good to key someone's car or drive drunk, or have an affair with your best friend's wife? How about if it makes you feel good to make a lot of money, even if you're taking advantage of people to do it? Is anything more important than that?

There are MANY things more important than that you feel good. That, IMO , is selfish, ridiculous and dangerous thinking. THAT PHILOSOPHY, IMO, is what is wrong with America right now.

That's why we kill our own babies and call it "choice". That's why we eat too much, drink too much, molest children, cheat on our spouses, shoplift, rip each other off, put each other down, lie, cheat, steal and get so self-absorbed that we cut ourselves off from the rest of the world emotionally.

Being "happy" has to do with happenings. Joy comes from God. Seek first the kingdom of God if one wants to experience joyful living. Seek to satisfy your carnal nature if one wants happiness, which is oftentimes fleeting and always temporary.

My :2cents:.

Don

[thewholetruth]

I agree with you Lorrie. Men who won't answer, even to say "I don't know" probably (if not obviously) suffer from a lack of communication skills. Rather than spending time trying to get answers out of men like that, I suggest you get involved in other activities which will facilitate your meeting more men. Communicative men are out there. They simply don't always live next door.

Don


Well, Lenny... wouldn't it be easier to tell the questioner that you can not give them an answer, or you can say, I need to think about it I will get back to you ... or some such answer. Stead of leaving it hanging out there in the abyss, so that the questioner may think you are ignoring them or something like that?

[shellebelle]

Don,

Come on - we aren't dealing with people here who aren't rational. Remember these sentences were lead with a conversation on self investment.

Lets be honest if you are dedicated to low earth impact and responsible living that should include self and with that commitment you wouldn't make the choices you are talking about.

I would think few on Wacco are not making conscious responsible choices. I may not agree with them but they are making informed, educated and aware choices.

And if you are happy focused on God then great but what about those who focus on the goddess, or any other of the many religions. Your choice is not everyones. Choice is personal!

Now on cheating on spouses - my pet peave with most religions. Look if spouses were open with each other - best friends - then they could tell each other the truth and not fear repercussions; also they would never "cheat" with their spouses best friend because it would be masturbation! Cheating is only cheating when the other person is not informed! You can't cheat or lie to the gods they know and if you can accept that then tell your spouse the truth!

And ya know I also have to point out I know many people who love "God" so much they no longer love their spouse! NOW THATS CHEATING! When a church replaces your spouse thats just so wrong!!!


"Being happy is the cornerstone of all that you are! Nothing is more important than that you feel good!"

And if it makes you feel good to key someone's car or drive drunk, or have an affair with your best friend's wife? How about if it makes you feel good to make a lot of money, even if you're taking advantage of people to do it? Is anything more important than that?

There are MANY things more important than that you feel good. That, IMO , is selfish, ridiculous and dangerous thinking. THAT PHILOSOPHY, IMO, is what is wrong with America right now.

That's why we kill our own babies and call it "choice". That's why we eat too much, drink too much, molest children, cheat on our spouses, shoplift, rip each other off, put each other down, lie, cheat, steal and get so self-absorbed that we cut ourselves off from the rest of the world emotionally.

Being "happy" has to do with happenings. Joy comes from God. Seek first the kingdom of God if one wants to experience joyful living. Seek to satisfy your carnal nature if one wants happiness, which is oftentimes fleeting and always temporary.

My :2cents:.

Don

[shellebelle]

Hey or they have lives!!!!!

I agree with they don't live next door. As the Dr Phil ad says unless you want to date the pizza delivery man you have to leave the house.

Oh yeh and meet men doing things that are healthy unless you want an unhealthy relationship. ie Don't expect to find a sober man in the local bar every night.



I agree with you Lorrie. Men who won't answer, even to say "I don't know" probably (if not obviously) suffer from a lack of communication skills. Rather than spending time trying to get answers out of men like that, I suggest you get involved in other activities which will facilitate your meeting more men. Communicative men are out there. They simply don't always live next door.

Don

[thewholetruth]

Don,

Come on - we aren't dealing with people here who aren't rational. Remember these sentences were lead with a conversation on self investment.

The comment you posted was that "nothing is more important than that you feel good". I wholeheartedly still disagree.


Lets be honest if you are dedicated to low earth impact and responsible living that should include self and with that commitment you wouldn't make the choices you are talking about.

You still haven't somehow magically made "nothing is more important than that you feel good" a valid premise.


I would think few on Wacco are not making conscious responsible choices. I may not agree with them but they are making informed, educated and aware choices.

Which has nothing to do with the comments I responded to.


And if you are happy focused on God then great but what about those who focus on the goddess, or any other of the many religions. Your choice is not everyones. Choice is personal!

God isn't about "choice". God is about seeking. This is the same kind of New Age drivel that "nothing is more important than that you feel good", IMO. It's self driven, not reality driven.


Now on cheating on spouses - my pet peave with most religions. Look if spouses were open with each other - best friends - then they could tell each other the truth and not fear repercussions; also they would never "cheat" with their spouses best friend because it would be masturbation! Cheating is only cheating when the other person is not informed! You can't cheat or lie to the gods they know and if you can accept that then tell your spouse the truth!

Cheating has nothing to do with religion. Trying to make that corelation says volumes about your bias against religion. Cheating is about being unfaithful to one's commitment to another. Cheating is about "nothing is more important than that you feel good". Devoid of integrity, but embracing the philosophy you just posted about "being happy" is the most important thing.


And ya know I also have to point out I know many people who love "God" so much they no longer love their spouse! NOW THATS CHEATING! When a church replaces your spouse thats just so wrong!!!

And ya know, I have to point out that religion didn't replace your marriage, or anyone else's. You are responsible for your marriage, for taking care of it, abusing it or neglecting it. Period.

Blaming religion for a failed relationship is ridiculous. It's bizarre, in fact.

Don

[thewholetruth]

Oh yeh and meet men doing things that are healthy unless you want an unhealthy relationship. ie Don't expect to find a sober man in the local bar every night.

Amen, Shelle. Amazing that people haven't figured that out yet after all these years. It's really a testimony to how sick they are, that they would think they might find a healthy person where sick people hang out. That's pretty insane thinking.

Don

[Lorrie]

I am sorry, but WHAT ARE YOU TWO TALKING ABOUT? what you are saying has NOTHING to do with my question.

Shelley I may have said I was "basically lazy" But I am most sure that had to do with one specific thing. I AM CERTAINLY NOT LAZY

I am not talking about meeting men either.

You two need to start your own thread, if you are going to talk about thing that have nothing to do with my question.

YOu are way off subject. I had asked that you didn't turn it into something else. UNLESS YOU ARE BOTH TRYING TO PROVE MY POINT!

[shellebelle]

You have the right to disagree.

If God doesn't feel good then why would you stick with a religion based on him? If Buddha doesn't feel good why would you stick with a religion based on him? Why would you "torture" yourself with any "relationship" that doesn't feel good?

God is a choice. I can choose to follow a God based religion or not. I don't have to seek God in fact my interpretation of the Bible says God will never abandon me so if I don't abandon Him and he doesn't abandon me then we don't have to seek we just have to HUG! I don't need a church, or a leader or anyone else to help me HUG! And by the way I CHOOSE WHO I HUG!!!

Really no cheating in religion so gee then the preachers are mis-preaching on these huh? Or do you call this stealing? I can live with it being stealing.

Exodus 20:17 (https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=2&chapter=20&verse=17&version=31&context=verse)
"You shall not covet your neighbor's house. You shall not covet your neighbor's wife, or his manservant or maidservant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor."
Exodus 20:16-18 (https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=2&chapter=20&verse=16&end_verse=18&version=31&context=context) (in Context) Exodus 20 (https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=2&chapter=20&version=31&context=chapter) (Whole Chapter)
Deuteronomy 5:21 (https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=5&chapter=5&verse=21&version=31&context=verse)
"You shall not covet your neighbor's wife. You shall not set your desire on your neighbor's house or land, his manservant or maidservant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor."Now lets move to commitment - my commitment did not include being monogamous! So if cheating is not honoring a commitment I can live with that too but then again like all contracts they should be renegotiable!

Now onto religion replacing marriage. Hmmmmmm I could build a great platform on this but I think if you truly understood addiction and addictive personalities you would admit it can replace anything. It becomes the addiction!


The comment you posted was that "nothing is more important than that you feel good". I wholeheartedly still disagree.

You still haven't somehow magically made "nothing is more important than that you feel good" a valid premise.

Which has nothing to do with the comments I responded to.

God isn't about "choice". God is about seeking. This is the same kind of New Age drivel that "nothing is more important than that you feel good", IMO. It's self driven, not reality driven.

Cheating has nothing to do with religion. Trying to make that corelation says volumes about your bias against religion. Cheating is about being unfaithful to one's commitment to another. Cheating is about "nothing is more important than that you feel good". Devoid of integrity, but embracing the philosophy you just posted about "being happy" is the most important thing.

And ya know, I have to point out that religion didn't replace your marriage, or anyone else's. You are responsible for your marriage, for taking care of it, abusing it or neglecting it. Period.

Blaming religion for a failed relationship is ridiculous. It's bizarre, in fact.

Don

[shellebelle]

Maybe we did prove your point. We answered your questions. Not once but several times from several perspectives.

So why do you not see our answers?


I am sorry, but WHAT ARE YOU TWO TALKING ABOUT? what you are saying has NOTHING to do with my question.

Shelley I may have said I was "basically lazy" But I am most sure that had to do with one specific thing. I AM CERTAINLY NOT LAZY

I am not talking about meeting men either.

You two need to start your own thread, if you are going to talk about thing that have nothing to do with my question.

YOu are way off subject. I had asked that you didn't turn it into something else. UNLESS YOU ARE BOTH TRYING TO PROVE MY POINT!

[shellebelle]

Okay, I know Lorrie still didn't get it so let me simplify. I know you want a mans perspective but I think this is probably close.

If you are not my spouse, my lover or my child then I am not responsible to you and do not owe you my time and even then I may choose to not share it right then! Whatever my work commitment is I owe my boss my time and potentially I have other such commitments but again unless that is you I do not have any requirement to give you my time. And I may choose to not acknowledge your contact - my choice!

Look! Men are busy, women are busy! We don't have time to answer every question, we read fast, we answer what we can "see" and go on to our other responsibilities. And yes sometimes you are not going to get an answer. Even when that person normally would give you that time!

You are not as important to me as my spouse, lover, son, daughter or adopted family who just walked through the door, called on the phone or sent me a note. So yes it happens! And goes back to: If you are not my spouse, my lover or my child then I am not responsible to you and do not owe you my time!


And depending on who you are talking to yes you are boring but so am I! Don't take it personally or do and fix it. If you want to date a geek then invest in knowing computers, want to date a writer then know how to write and its complexities and the list goes on! So yes I might walk away simply distracted and potentially just because.




Maybe we did prove your point. We answered your questions. Not once but several times from several perspectives.

So why do you not see our answers?

[Lorrie]

Well don't you think that is a little disrespectful? I mean if a person takes the time to think highly enough of your opinion, answer or imput to a question and you ignore the question, shouldn't a person take it personal? Couldn't they think that you don't think enough of them because you time is so valuable but not valuable enough for them? *sigh* thank you for taking the time to answer my question Shelley. and its cool that even though I am not your lover, spouse or child ~ you gave me some of your time. Thank you again.

:cloud9:~ Peace :hugs:~Love :rofl:~Joy
*~~~~~~~~~~~~~Lorrie
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On Wed, Apr 30, 2008 at 12:18 PM, Lorrie <[email protected] ([email protected])> wrote:
What are you talking about?
Shelley, you are missing the whole point of my question...
I am not asking for love advice.
My question was: Why when you ask (someone) a man a question they don't answer what I ask, but, what they want to answer what they think the question is or don't answer at all.
Just as you are doing. I know that you are trying to answer my question. But if you take the time to read the question, and not add anything to it what you think you want the question to be and answer it to fit "your question". My questions are basic and to the point. Nothing more nothing less...but what I ask'd.
I am totally clear on why you don't answer questions. But I was kind of looking for a man's point of view since those are who mostly do it in emails... My uncle does it, my brother does it, my man friends do it, and yes occasionally some girlfriends do it too.
What does what What do you want? I want my question answered
A man? A Relationship? A Friend? have to do with why the questions I ask are not being answered?
I don't have problems meeting men. None zip zilch. They are around me all the time.
If the right one comes along more power to me, but I am definately not like you.
Being a tom-boy myself and most all friends being male, I have male perspective too. But this is one of those questions, I don't know the answer to.
Men are very attracted to me.. I recently had a newly met 22 year old want to take me home with him.... Couldn't help but feel like "he could be my son"... I just wasn't interested in a fling with him... cause I coulda taken him up on his offer. no problem my own thoughts, perceptions, future thinking ...told me it wasn't worth getting involved in. I think it was a very smart move.
You brought up some good points about rushing through, or not having time. But at least an acknowledgement that I asked the question, would be nice. Or knowing that it happens to alot of people all the time and not just me... You know?
:cloud9:~ Peace :hugs:~Love :rofl:~Joy
*~~~~~~~~~~~~~Lorrie



-----Original Message-----
From: Shelley O'Connor [mailto:[email protected] ([email protected])]
Sent: Wednesday, April 30, 2008 9:44 AM
To: Lorrie
Subject: The Answer


You don't seem to be able to find the answer yet its right here. I tried to explain this to you several times in person even and you dismissed me to go to another subject. So Lorrie here's my question: I'm not an expert mind you but with 5 men actively in my life plus another 12 inactive but always available plus my extended family network of like another 12 men I think I exude what some men like and have a perspective on their likes and dislikes.
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I can't help but wonder why?
Do you supposed its because I have nothing interesting to say? Do you suppose what they have to talk to the other person about is more important...? Well, if that is the case couldn't they excuse themselves first instead of just leaving in the middle of me telling....I am not around a lot, but the other people are...you know?

Boy! I can't wait to see what you all say to this...but its all true!




I think your questions are great examples. And I think I have some potential answers.
I don't answer every question in an email. I handle about 100 emails a day maybe more. I don't have that type of time.
I have a small child who needs me so I have period where I just don't respond at all.
With so many emails if I have read the email and not marked it, then I get interrupted, then I forget to go back to it. I don't mean to its just life!
And these are just my top three for missing questions; I also read too fast, have a life outside of email, my extended family is large and sometimes someone of greater importance does come around (sorry but its true), etc.
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Well I can think of a few potential things you could look at when it comes to conversations.
What are your hobbies? If you don't invest in yourself no one else will. Hobbies are investments in self.
They don't have to be costly - hiking, walking, knitting, photography are some I have always done no matter what my income was. Then there is reading. A trip to the library (again minimal costs involved) might be in order for you! Choose books that guys might be or have told you they enjoyed.
I have had you tell me "I am basically lazy." - okay I am not - if you are lazy why would I want that energy around me?
That brings me to energy - you don't exude the type of energy many people are working towards or with. If you did you would never describe yourself as lazy!
Energy is very important. Passion, happiness and positives are just a few key components to a healthy life.
In Law of Attractiont here is two quotes I think apply from Abraham Hickes!
Being happy is the cornerstone of all that you are! Nothing is more important than that you feel good! And you have absolute and utter control about that because you can choose the thought that makes you worry or the thought that makes you happy; the things that thrill you, or the things that worry you. You have the choice in every moment.
Excerpted from a workshop in Sacramento, CA on Saturday, March 15th, 2003
All Is Well

The Universe is not punishing you or blessing you. The Universe is responding to the vibrational attitude that you are emitting. The more joyful you are, the more Well-being flows to you -- and you get to choose the details of how it flows
Excerpted from a workshop in Phoenix, AZ on Saturday, February 24th, 2001
All Is Well

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[shellebelle]

No, I think, thinking YOU are more important than someone's work, personal life, or family is disrespectful!

Nothing personal.

I am never more important than my lovers spouses, or their kids/family. To expect to be would not only disrespect their family, lives and choices but also them.
Now under certain circumstances that might be different but that would be extreme.




Well don't you think that is a little disrespectful?

[Lenny]

Well, Lenny... wouldn't it be easier to tell the questioner that you can not give them an answer, or you can say, I need to think about it I will get back to you ... or some such answer. Stead of leaving it hanging out there in the abyss, so that the questioner may think you are ignoring them or something like that?

Yes.

[Lenny]

I don't know how to say this gently:
Maybe you talk to much.

I just read through this thread. Gadz.
Most guys I know like quiet.
Most women I know like talk.
You may be all women, or more woman than most women!
Try this Tale of Two Brains:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xxtUH_bHBxs


Why is it, that when you ask men questions, they don't answer your questions, but move on to other things as though you never asked it.
Not one guy. Many men. I would write to a guy and ask some questions... and then they write back with only answering maybe one of the questions.
You think it is a short attention span?
This even happens sometimes in person...
You ask a question and a question is asked to answer....???I don't get it.:hmmm:

[Shnookums]

Fact is:
Sounds like your more interested in them then they are in you.

[caputmedusae]

First off, avoid the men who are that self-centered. If for some reason you can't, tell them that you don't like it, and continue on with what you were saying--it's a good lesson for them in that they need to respect women at all times, and a good exercise for exerting your self-confidence.