I am a little bit MORE than just "Average" !

[nurturetruth]

So.. something a bit funny happened in my conscious relationship with my primary and journey into enlightment! Wanted to share the experience.....

It is becoming known to me (and definitely kinda a surprise!) that it is true ~~ As we age, our bodies change.

I used to only gain extra skin on my thighs, hips or glute's. But now, that definitely has changed!!! And this whole experience is quite new for me and a bit challenging to accept.

Now.... most would probably see me and tell me I am "small" or when I expose my tummy and show off my new found skin, my friends politely just say..."aww...thats nothing".

Well..it IS something to me; from my perspective and from this angle as I continue to learn to love ALL of me!

So.... I have been playing with this "new me".... discovering how I can now fit into all these clothes I wasn't able to before! Shocking, really!
but I now have a "wider range" to choose from, so to speak. ANYWAY!!!

Last night, my primary beloved and I were delightfully watching the movie, "Fried Green Tomatoes".
I was in my organic night time wear and my tummy must have been folding over tremendously cause my beloved exclaimed... "Whoa!" and was looking right at my tummy!!!

I looked at him and said.."your not suppose to say , "whoa!" , in that tone! You can only say it if you are referring to the bountiful beauty of all of me! "

So then the next morning, I catch myself still reflecting and adjusting to my new "look". I reflect on online dating profiles where people can state whether they are: 1) thin/slender 2) average 3) atheletic 4) a few extra pounds or 5) i would rather not say.

As my beloved and I laid lovingly next to one another in bed, I ask him:

"Would u say I was: thin/slender, average, a few extra pounds, or would u rather not say?"

He immediately smiled a kinda sheepish look at me (as if he dreaded what he was getting into and having fun at the same time) and readily with sureness in his tone said : " Oh.. a few extra pounds."

My mouth literally fell open ! I couldn't believe he had said that! I was bewildered!

I then smiled a big grin at him while I tried to coax him and his opinion by saying: " but in America, comparatively, I MUST be at LEAST "Average", rather than a "few extra pounds" !

My beloved quickly attempted to refresh my memory as to how I had been the one to inform him that I indeed had gained a few extra pounds. (2-3 pounds being literally "a few" in his opinion).

I exclaimed.. "Well then... at least I can be proud that I am a little bit more than just "Average!"

:wink:

:heart:

[MsTerry]

Can you please attach a picture so that Edward can make a poll out of it.



So.. something a bit funny happened in my conscious relationship with my primary and journey into enlightment! Wanted to share the experience.....

[Melodymama]

You wrote:"I used to only gain extra skin on my thighs, hips or glute's. But now, that definitely has changed!!! And this whole experience is quite new for me and a bit challenging to accept."

Think of this as experiencing abundance. I checked out your profile and would encourage you to read it again yourself. Most of us women, especially after 40, deal with the issues of body image and yet we are and always have been so much more than our bodies. It frustrates me that the culture we happen to live in is so infatuated with thinness that we encourage ill health. Just as applies to men, it is not the meat, it's the motion. Dancing or singing, laughing, sex, spirituality are not dependent on size. When we older (and wiser, hopefully) women fall into the trap of not accepting who we are becoming, how does this look to younger women who are trying to find peace with who they are? I, too, struggle with this. Thank you for being honest as I see that as the first rule of conscious relationship. Laura

[MsTerry]

Uhm, there have been some studies that indicate that being overweight is not healthy.
More recently I saw a headline that said a spare tire around your waist can cause dementia in later life.
Of course that stopped me right in my tracks.


You wrote:"I used to only gain extra skin on my thighs, hips or glute's. But now, that definitely has changed!!! And this whole experience is quite new for me and a bit challenging to accept."

Think of this as experiencing abundance. I checked out your profile and would encourage you to read it again yourself. Most of us women, especially after 40, deal with the issues of body image and yet we are and always have been so much more than our bodies. It frustrates me that the culture we happen to live in is so infatuated with thinness that we encourage ill health. Just as applies to men, it is not the meat, it's the motion. Dancing or singing, laughing, sex, spirituality are not dependent on size. When we older (and wiser, hopefully) women fall into the trap of not accepting who we are becoming, how does this look to younger women who are trying to find peace with who they are? I, too, struggle with this. Thank you for being honest as I see that as the first rule of conscious relationship. Laura

[MsTerry]

Thanks for the Butt-i-full pictures my darling

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It is becoming known to me (and definitely kinda a surprise!) that it is true ~~ As we age, our bodies change.

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