From https://www.dailyom.com/articles/2008/12147.html
:heart:Getting What We Want:heart:
The best way to get what we want from life is to first know what we want. If we haven't taken the time to really understand and identify what would truly make us happy, we won't be able to ask for it from those around us or from the universe. We may not even be able to recognize it once it arrives. Once we are clear about what we want, we can communicate it to those around us. When we can be honest about who we are and what we want, there is no need to demand, be rude or aggressive, or manipulate others that are involved in helping us get what we want. Instead, we know that we are transmitting a signal on the right frequency to bring all that we desire into our experience.
As the world evolves, humanity is learning to work from the heart. We may have been taught that the way to get what we want is to follow certain rules, play particular games, or even engage in acts that use less than our highest integrity. The only rules we need to apply are those of intention and connection. In terms of energy, we can see that it takes a lot of energy to keep up a false front or act in a way that is counter to our true nature, but much less energy is expended when we can just be and enjoy connections that energize us in return. Then our energy can be directed toward living the life we want right now.
Society has certain expectations of behavior and the roles each of us should play, but as spiritual beings we are not bound by these superficial structures unless we choose to accept them. Instead, we can listen to our hearts and follow what we know to be true and meaningful for us. In doing so, we will find others who have chosen the same path. It can be easy to get caught up in following goals that appear to be what we want, but when we pursue the underlying value, we are certain to stay on our right path and continue to feed our soul.
Zeno Swijtink
02-14-2008, 11:24 AM
The best way to get what we want from life is to first know what we want. (...)
Another point of view starts from the question:
Why do people make mistakes when they look into their own futures and try to decide what will make them happy?
Apparently we are bad at predicting what will make us happy. A well known example is that almost anyone would like to win the lottery and believes that such would make them extremely happy. In fact most people who win the lottery are less well off and less satisfied with their life five years later.
Stumbling on Happiness is a book by Daniel Gilbert that explores these phenomena.
Perhaps there are people out there who don't know themselves and they see other people happy and attempt to gain what that person has only to find out that it didn't work for them.
I think most people are so busy running around that they don't get to really know themselves. It took me taking time off work to finally get the time to sit down and truly meet myself for the first time.
Another point of view starts from the question:
Why do people make mistakes when they look into their own futures and try to decide what will make them happy?
Apparently we are bad at predicting what will make us happy. A well known example is that almost anyone would like to win the lottery and believes that such would make them extremely happy. In fact most people who win the lottery are less well off and less satisfied with their life five years later.
Stumbling on Happiness is a book by Daniel Gilbert that explores these phenomena.
Taking time for self-assessment does help. I took some time off to really think about what was making me happy in my life, and what was not. I completely disassociated from stress and the rat race for a while, which helped me see more clearly. Then I disconnected from all the negative influences in my life, and gave praise and gratitude for all the positive ones. I opened myself up to let positive energy flow in:heart:, and built up my strength to resist the negative. During this time of discovery, gratitude, and growth, I realized that happiness came from living in the moment, not wallowing in the past, or waiting for the future.
I think one of the biggest mistakes people make is believing that getting what they want or need will finally make them happy. Being content with what you have, who you are and where you are at now, AKA GRATITUDE, is a solid foundation for happiness. Instead of only looking toward future happiness, stressing out about how to get what you want, over-exerting yourself and wearing yourself out trying to get what you think you need to be happy, just enjoy the present moment and take time to appreciate all that you have to be grateful for and happy about now. And stop beating yourself up for past mistakes. If you learned from them, be grateful for that.
Understanding what makes YOU happy, and why, is an important part of appreciation and gratitude. Being clear about this helps you filter and focus on what is most important to you, which allows you to see the opportunities when they become available. Always keep your eyes, ears, mind and heart open. I don't think our desires just materialize out of thin air, I think we learn how to point ourself in the right direction, avoid self-sabotage, and move towards our goals in a positive way. It's making the most out of the journey that is important, not the acquisition or final destination.
From https://www.dailyom.com/articles/2008/12147.html
:heart:Getting What We Want:heart:
The best way to get what we want from life is to first know what we want....
Perhaps there are people out there who don't know themselves and they see other people happy and attempt to gain what that person has only to find out that it didn't work for them.
I think most people are so busy running around that they don't get to really know themselves. It took me taking time off work to finally get the time to sit down and truly meet myself for the first time.
scorpiomoon
03-13-2008, 07:48 PM
Good good good. Now BE VERY SPECIFIC and I will tell you what I did once when I first came to CA, and had nowhere to be, I chanted I want a house on the ocean and don't want to pay rent over and over over and over
and I GOT IT!
So of course I laid the ground work I got ready and assumed it would come to fruition I jigged the puzzle until the pieces fit. I worked and lived 8 years on the ocean and I paid not in money but in labor while studying and working and writing but man the chant I will tell you when I meet you its too simple I'll have to look it up but will find it save it 4 you okay??
alanora
03-14-2008, 09:22 AM
Am not clear, is there a specific chant you will be providing at some later time? Would love to see how it feels. mindy
Good good good. Now BE VERY SPECIFIC and I will tell you what I did once when I first came to CA, and had nowhere to be, I chanted I want a house on the ocean and don't want to pay rent over and over over and over
and I GOT IT!
So of course I laid the ground work I got ready and assumed it would come to fruition I jigged the puzzle until the pieces fit. I worked and lived 8 years on the ocean and I paid not in money but in labor while studying and working and writing but man the chant I will tell you when I meet you its too simple I'll have to look it up but will find it save it 4 you okay??
mykil
03-14-2008, 10:02 AM
Yes I have a pulse, but it's being used right now. BUT you know me? This does change on a daily basis and truly will for me. Fickle you say? Not in the least, just on my own path that amuses the hell out of me, and takes me places that no man has been before! How to be in a relationship with no values, no morals, and no expectations? No, I do not know exactly what I want in life, but on the extreme other hand, I really don’t give a fuck, I do not want to know exactly what life has in store for me. Thus I do not want to be stuck in a relationship that I find out down the road in, well lets say a week, I feel trapped and not into the whole! Thus patients, a little room to breath, and lets not make plans to move in on the first date. Let us slow it down to a crawl. Let me call you! Let me think about what we had and if I want to continue down the path we see before our eyes. Let me break bread and move toward you slowly AND EVER SO FRUITFUL! Stand back and let me come to you. Sometimes in this life to truly get what you want you have to really sit back and let it come to you. go on with your daily values and don’t even think about what you little heart is missing, don’t think about the family you desire soooo gratefully, just sit back relax a little and see where it all leads. If it is truly meant to be it will happen. This goes for pretty much everything in your life this is for sure. When you have grown enough to truly have your man you happiness and you own world just the way you see it if will appear before you eyes and you will have never even known another world. It will appear as though it has alwayz been right there and you will not be able to see past it around it below it or even through it, for it will be real! :heart:<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p>