ThePhiant
10-27-2007, 09:53 PM
what makes you think the religion is the common thread in all of this?????
maybe they are acting this way because they are women???
maybe they act this way because you allow them?
maybe they act this way caus your passive-aggressive behavior is too subtle for them?
maybe you know something we don't know?
is this the whole story?
I have a question of those who practice Tibetan Buddhism; what does this religion teach about helping others? I have had the misfortune to have been employed by two women (who incidentally both practice Tibetan Buddhism) who are extremely insensitive and unhelpful. These two women don't know each other and I was employed by them at two entirely different times. The first woman was my manager and whenever I asked her a question about something that I knew she might help me with, she would say she didn't know and to try someone else. I found this very frustrating because I would go out of my way to help this woman whenever she asked me. Even if I did not know the answer to a particular question, I would make calls and send emails to my colleagues in order to find a solution.
The other woman employs me as a caregiver for her elderly mother. This woman routinely asks me to shell out cash to buy groceries for her mother's home, then always finds some excuse not to repay me on a timely basis or not to pay me in cash. Finally, I got fed up with it and told her I did not have the cash to buy groceries and her mother indeed needed food. This woman wrote me an eight paragraph email about how she was too busy to go and buy food for her mother and how if I "had a heart" I would go out and buy her mother the food she needed. I finally suggested that I get a note from her doctor and sign her mother up for Meals on Wheels so this did not become a problem. I got a terse reply that this was "not an option" for them because her mother found the food "inedible". I could not believe she could be that ungreatful. This woman writes in a very flowery way, but the underlying intent is passive-aggressive, to insult me, or snipe at me in some way. When I ask for time off to deal with personal business (and I give her plenty of notice) she writes nasty notes to me about what a hassle it is and how she is too busy to deal with this. At times I feel like reminding her that we all have to take care of our parents at some point in our lives and I'm sure that she will never do as much for her mother as her mother did for her in raising, nurturing and protecting her from harm when she was a child. I somehow feel that even this would not get through to her.
So tell me, is there something in this religion that teaches about helping others? Thanks
maybe they are acting this way because they are women???
maybe they act this way because you allow them?
maybe they act this way caus your passive-aggressive behavior is too subtle for them?
maybe you know something we don't know?
is this the whole story?
I have a question of those who practice Tibetan Buddhism; what does this religion teach about helping others? I have had the misfortune to have been employed by two women (who incidentally both practice Tibetan Buddhism) who are extremely insensitive and unhelpful. These two women don't know each other and I was employed by them at two entirely different times. The first woman was my manager and whenever I asked her a question about something that I knew she might help me with, she would say she didn't know and to try someone else. I found this very frustrating because I would go out of my way to help this woman whenever she asked me. Even if I did not know the answer to a particular question, I would make calls and send emails to my colleagues in order to find a solution.
The other woman employs me as a caregiver for her elderly mother. This woman routinely asks me to shell out cash to buy groceries for her mother's home, then always finds some excuse not to repay me on a timely basis or not to pay me in cash. Finally, I got fed up with it and told her I did not have the cash to buy groceries and her mother indeed needed food. This woman wrote me an eight paragraph email about how she was too busy to go and buy food for her mother and how if I "had a heart" I would go out and buy her mother the food she needed. I finally suggested that I get a note from her doctor and sign her mother up for Meals on Wheels so this did not become a problem. I got a terse reply that this was "not an option" for them because her mother found the food "inedible". I could not believe she could be that ungreatful. This woman writes in a very flowery way, but the underlying intent is passive-aggressive, to insult me, or snipe at me in some way. When I ask for time off to deal with personal business (and I give her plenty of notice) she writes nasty notes to me about what a hassle it is and how she is too busy to deal with this. At times I feel like reminding her that we all have to take care of our parents at some point in our lives and I'm sure that she will never do as much for her mother as her mother did for her in raising, nurturing and protecting her from harm when she was a child. I somehow feel that even this would not get through to her.
So tell me, is there something in this religion that teaches about helping others? Thanks