sundfam
09-03-2007, 01:23 PM
Greetings Wacco's:
My name is Cheryl...just registered this morning. I wanted to share some stuff that I know a lot of good people here in Sonoma Co. must be going through. When I bring up this subject in almost any situation, I almost always find someone doing something similar. I thought I would mention it here too.
My sister and I are caregiving for our 83 year old Mom. She has dementia, and vertebral fractures. She is for the most part disabled. We like most loving daughters would prefer to keep mom in her home for as long as we can. We are in the process of waiting for an evaluation from the Medi-Cal IHHS folks (get in line), and also possible help from the Veteran's. My dad was a veteran of WW2, so mom may be eligiable for "aid and attendance" (more of the waiting in line). Its the waiting for help that makes us crazy. Like a never ending day at the DMV, or the Unemployment office. We have been waiting for 126 days, and counting. If you paid someone $10.00/hr. for hmmm 3024hrs, that's about $30k...I'm guessing that there are not many folks prepared for this kind of expenditure. Either have to be quite well off, or have nothing to get any help. Otherwise, you wait, and wait some more.
I live in Guerneville. My Mom land sister both live in Santa Rosa. My sister works and commutes to the bay area 4 days a week, spends the other 3 days with mom. I stay at Mom's from Sunday evening through Thursday afternoon. I work on the weekends, and catch up with my husband and 17 year old sons' lives. We feel lucky to have each other, but the strain is starting to feel quite heavy.
All of the problems we're experiencing now will only get BIGGER with the whole boomer set...it's so close. It scares me. How can we prepare???
I will cut to the chase here...I know there's lots of you out there, doing the same or similar for your parent(s). I know there must be some creative way for us to pool our resources. Anyone have any ideas, or like thinking here?
My name is Cheryl...just registered this morning. I wanted to share some stuff that I know a lot of good people here in Sonoma Co. must be going through. When I bring up this subject in almost any situation, I almost always find someone doing something similar. I thought I would mention it here too.
My sister and I are caregiving for our 83 year old Mom. She has dementia, and vertebral fractures. She is for the most part disabled. We like most loving daughters would prefer to keep mom in her home for as long as we can. We are in the process of waiting for an evaluation from the Medi-Cal IHHS folks (get in line), and also possible help from the Veteran's. My dad was a veteran of WW2, so mom may be eligiable for "aid and attendance" (more of the waiting in line). Its the waiting for help that makes us crazy. Like a never ending day at the DMV, or the Unemployment office. We have been waiting for 126 days, and counting. If you paid someone $10.00/hr. for hmmm 3024hrs, that's about $30k...I'm guessing that there are not many folks prepared for this kind of expenditure. Either have to be quite well off, or have nothing to get any help. Otherwise, you wait, and wait some more.
I live in Guerneville. My Mom land sister both live in Santa Rosa. My sister works and commutes to the bay area 4 days a week, spends the other 3 days with mom. I stay at Mom's from Sunday evening through Thursday afternoon. I work on the weekends, and catch up with my husband and 17 year old sons' lives. We feel lucky to have each other, but the strain is starting to feel quite heavy.
All of the problems we're experiencing now will only get BIGGER with the whole boomer set...it's so close. It scares me. How can we prepare???
I will cut to the chase here...I know there's lots of you out there, doing the same or similar for your parent(s). I know there must be some creative way for us to pool our resources. Anyone have any ideas, or like thinking here?