I've had about 168 people read my last post and I am just not having anyone write me.
What's a girl gotta do to meet someone special?
:fireworks: Look at me:woohoo: I'm single.:fireworks:
Braggi
08-13-2007, 02:05 PM
I usually go where the kind of people I'd like to meet hang out. Special events happen all over Sonoma County every day and every evening. Many are free or nearly so, so cost shouldn't be a huge issue. The Gravenstein Apple fair was a blast. We went yesterday and there were hundreds of single, pretty people hanging around making eye contact with interested folks. The rest us up to you.
I'll pass on one really strange (and yet, I suppose, obvious) thing. When a guy is single and really really wants to connect with the woman of his dreams, or perhaps just wants someone to spend an intimate few hours with, women so often run the other way when he enters the room. However, once he's hooked up with someone new, suddenly the available ladies come out of the woodwork and take notice. Except now he's taken and can't take advantage of what's offered! What's that about? It could be the predatory look, or just the needy (maybe pathetic?) look turns possible mates off, where the satisfied, self-confidence exuded by someone in a hot new relationship looks pretty damn good to the ladies. Anybody reading this nodding in agreement?
Being a guy I can only share this from a guy's perspective, but perhaps this bizarre dynamic is working against you. I'm not even sure what you can do about it aside from becoming aware of it and seeing if it makes sense to you.
One other thought: I like having the odds stacked in my favor. If I was looking for a life mate right now I'd be taking aerobics classes (about 30 women for every guy), taking belly dance lessons (about 60 women for every guy), or joining a knitting circle (about 200 women for every guy). Maybe you should check out the events that draw guys you could handle becoming friendly with and have fewer women than men in the crowd.
Don't give up Jill! There are good guys out there. It's true that most of them are busy, but every now and then they do become available.
-Jeff
PS. Ever think about putting a picture on your Wacco profile? It's nice to have an image in mind when writing, even better if asking for a date. (Yes, I know you've offered to exchange pics by email.)
nanopiano
08-13-2007, 02:43 PM
hey jill,
how are you? was looking at your post and decided i would write because i think i need some pointers myself.I do agree with jeff on most points about the " mating ritual dynamic" or put more simply from a guy's perspective,"when it rains it pours".Although i don't think knitting is in my future no matter what the cost! Being from the east coast i feel that both men and women out here in this beautiful countryside aren't aggressive enough.Maybe afraid to approach each other because of spacial issues or negitive reinforcement...i don't know.I beleive the more good friends the merrier and keep the hassles to a minimum.So,if your interested,drop me an email.
-steve