Is being happy all the time a bad trait?

[mykil]

For the last few years or so, when I meet someone and they ask me what I am like, I tell them I am just a happy person. They Question this, and eventually tell me that it is imposable for me to be happy all the time. I tell them that this is just the way I am. I am a very happy person all the time. Most all think this is a bad thing, that’s just wrong, there must be something wrong with this.
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For the pass few weeks or so, I am wondering if this is wrong for me to be happy all the time. I started thinking maybe there is something wrong with the way I am. Being happy all the time is just an understatement by the way, my friends that really know me have always told me I have no off button, I am always on.
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The last time I was in love, over ten years ago, when my heart was broken up in little tiny pieces and thrown to the wolves, I was really heart broken beyond my own expectations, but I was still happy! I still woke with a smile on my face and when I lay in my bed at night I was happy. I really can’t ever remember being unhappy, ever! Is this just wrong as everyone seems to think, or am I just a really lucky person?
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I don’t know why I choose to write this and post it here, it is just something I really would like to discuss with everyone, and get more than just a few opinions, all you would be psychiatrists are welcome to tell me what I am all about. How come I shouldn’t be so happy with all that is going on in the world today, or just plain outrageous to be such a happy go lucky guy! LOL! :hmmm:
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Normally this wouldn’t really catch my attention, but it happens at least on a weekly basis, maybe I should just quit telling people how happy I am. But at this point I am really curious how they will react, and ultimately dispute the fact, and/or tell me that that is not in the normal behavior of anyone in the whole entire history of civilization. Peace!:wink:
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[Diablo]

you will say or do anything, just to get laid



For the last few years or so, when I meet someone and they ask me what I am like, I tell them I am just a happy person. They Question this, and eventually tell me that it is imposable for me to be happy all the time. I tell them that this is just the way I am. I am a very happy person all the time. Most all think this is a bad thing, that’s just wrong, there must be something wrong with this.
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For the pass few weeks or so, I am wondering if this is wrong for me to be happy all the time. I started thinking maybe there is something wrong with the way I am. Being happy all the time is just an understatement by the way, my friends that really know me have always told me I have no off button, I am always on.
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The last time I was in love, over ten years ago, when my heart was broken up in little tiny pieces and thrown to the wolves, I was really heart broken beyond my own expectations, but I was still happy! I still woke with a smile on my face and when I lay in my bed at night I was happy. I really can’t ever remember being unhappy, ever! Is this just wrong as everyone seems to think, or am I just a really lucky person?
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I don’t know why I choose to write this and post it here, it is just something I really would like to discuss with everyone, and get more than just a few opinions, all you would be psychiatrists are welcome to tell me what I am all about. How come I shouldn’t be so happy with all that is going on in the world today, or just plain outrageous to be such a happy go lucky guy! LOL! :hmmm:
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Normally this wouldn’t really catch my attention, but it happens at least on a weekly basis, maybe I should just quit telling people how happy I am. But at this point I am really curious how they will react, and ultimately dispute the fact, and/or tell me that that is not in the normal behavior of anyone in the whole entire history of civilization. Peace!:wink:
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[Diablo]

is your bussiness THAT slow?




LMAO!! Just because it makes me happy!!!

[Tinque]

I can reply to this topic of conversation with complete empathy . I have ,for the most part, always been a happy person from the second I wake up, until the moment I crawl into bed I am usually a very upbeat person and always have a positive outlook and attitude.. ( Drug Free) , by the way , which of course is not what people think at all. I could really (almost) care less. I think BE YOURSELF. If you are happy , and I know a few reasons why , GO FOR it ! DO NOT LET ANYONE JUDGE YOU FOR ANY REASON! I know for a fact you are a wonderful and kind (nice) guy ! I salute you for being yourself, which is rare these days ! Love to You >.......

[Linda Heath]

Dear Mykil,
How refreshing to hear your tale of being a happy person. I too am basically a truly happy person and people react similarly to me as they have to you. I almost always have a smile on my face because I believe happness and smiles are "infectuous." As an adult I've often wondered if my head is "in the sand" when so many horrible things are happening in the world. When others have problems (like so many teens I taught for so many hears) I would suggest to them to study all of the possible outcomes, i.e. the worst possible thing that could happen and the best thing that could happen. Many a student left me feeling much more positive about life, their weight lifted and often with a smile.
I deal with what I'm able to and am supportive of causes, but life is too short to go around moaning and groaning. I sing a lot, show tunes and love songs. One time I sang all the way from S.F. to San Diego! I'm a single gal, looking for a happy man. You know first hand, Mykil, that truly happy people are few and far between, but when you meet one they just beam at you. I've met a handful and they always make the world a better place.
Smiles and hugs to you, Mykil....Linda

[HolisticKids]

There is nothing wrong and everything right about you being happy. We are meant to be happy. That is our natural state and the most normal way of being.

However, most people are too disconnected and bogged down with "issues" so it's annoying for them to be around happy people. It brings up an uncomfortable feeling since they intuitively know that happiness is their natural state, but they can't find it. And it's difficult when someone is in a low feeling state to be around someone who is all bright and cheery. The vibrations do not match.

It's too bad that the majority of people in this world are so disconnected from the natural state of happiness that those who are happy may feel "bad" or "abnormal". That is way backwards.

I can say I am happy pretty much all the time, too, but this is a fairly new thing for me. And I've noticed lately that people who are unhappy just don't make their way into my experience anymore.

One thing I have to ask: Why do you have to continually tell people you are happy? Why not just let your light shine? It could be that in telling people that you are happy all the time, it takes away from the reality of it. Why do you even need to tell it?

Jane



For the last few years or so, when I meet someone and they ask me what I am like, I tell them I am just a happy person. They Question this, and eventually tell me that it is imposable for me to be happy all the time. I tell them that this is just the way I am. I am a very happy person all the time. Most all think this is a bad thing, that’s just wrong, there must be something wrong with this.
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For the pass few weeks or so, I am wondering if this is wrong for me to be happy all the time. I started thinking maybe there is something wrong with the way I am. Being happy all the time is just an understatement by the way, my friends that really know me have always told me I have no off button, I am always on.
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The last time I was in love, over ten years ago, when my heart was broken up in little tiny pieces and thrown to the wolves, I was really heart broken beyond my own expectations, but I was still happy! I still woke with a smile on my face and when I lay in my bed at night I was happy. I really can’t ever remember being unhappy, ever! Is this just wrong as everyone seems to think, or am I just a really lucky person?
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I don’t know why I choose to write this and post it here, it is just something I really would like to discuss with everyone, and get more than just a few opinions, all you would be psychiatrists are welcome to tell me what I am all about. How come I shouldn’t be so happy with all that is going on in the world today, or just plain outrageous to be such a happy go lucky guy! LOL! :hmmm:
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Normally this wouldn’t really catch my attention, but it happens at least on a weekly basis, maybe I should just quit telling people how happy I am. But at this point I am really curious how they will react, and ultimately dispute the fact, and/or tell me that that is not in the normal behavior of anyone in the whole entire history of civilization. Peace!:wink:
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[mykil]

Curiosity killed the little kitty, this is why Jane! Jane I have been dating a lot over the past couple of years and this is new to me. This is the Question most women ask when we meet, what kind of person are you anyway? When I answer, this is where the issue comes into play, I answer that I am a really happy person, happy all the time. This is where it turns into more of a debate and lecture about telling a fib or two! Thus why I am asking the Question. Nobody is happy all the time, is where the conversation seems to lead every time. Well Hell I am, and proud of it! Still this has led me to believe maybe being an extremely over zealous individual is maybe just wrong at times.



There is nothing wrong and everything right about you being happy. We are meant to be happy. That is our natural state and the most normal way of being.

However, most people are too disconnected and bogged down with "issues" so it's annoying for them to be around happy people. It brings up an uncomfortable feeling since they intuitively know that happiness is their natural state, but they can't find it. And it's difficult when someone is in a low feeling state to be around someone who is all bright and cheery. The vibrations do not match.

It's too bad that the majority of people in this world are so disconnected from the natural state of happiness that those who are happy may feel "bad" or "abnormal". That is way backwards.

I can say I am happy pretty much all the time, too, but this is a fairly new thing for me. And I've noticed lately that people who are unhappy just don't make their way into my experience anymore.

One thing I have to ask: Why do you have to continually tell people you are happy? Why not just let your light shine? It could be that in telling people that you are happy all the time, it takes away from the reality of it. Why do you even need to tell it?

Jane

[Diablo]

watch out Jane, this guy is just trying to get in to your pants!


Curiosity killed the little kitty, this is why Jane! Jane I have been dating a lot over the past couple of years and this is new to me. This is the Question most women ask when we meet, what kind of person are you anyway? When I answer, this is where the issue comes into play, I answer that I am a really happy person, happy all the time. This is where it turns into more of a debate and lecture about telling a fib or two! Thus why I am asking the Question. Nobody is happy all the time, is where the conversation seems to lead every time. Well Hell I am, and proud of it! Still this has led me to believe maybe being an extremely over zealous individual is maybe just wrong at times.

[joyfulone]

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To paraphrase Kahlil Gibran in The Prophet

"Let pain carve out the well of my being
That it may hold more joy."

That's how my heart works.
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[Lisa W]

Well Mykil, I congratulate you on your ability to be yourself no matter what others say. Each person has their own life experiences through which they filter each moment and determine their own response/reaction/reality. Your filter is, apparently, rose colored and can only benefit you and those around you if they choose to allow it. As Gandhi said "be the change you wish to see in the world", and I for one would rather live in a world of happy folks than the other extreme. Mind you, there is room for all the variables in the middle and there are plenty of people out there who choose from all those variables. You have chosen the happy end of the spectrum, and as long as you aren't ignoring some other emotions, then I say GO FOR IT. My only wish is that you radiate your happiness out via the meditation waves (if you meditate) so that it can have an affect on a larger scale to balance out all the angst and anger that is out there. For what it's worth, there is my humble(?) opinion.

Live Happy and Prosper, Lisa

[Dixon]

I see no evidence that we are "meant" to be happy (meant by whom?) or that happiness is our natural state. From what I've seen, our natural state is to experience a wide range of feelings--happiness, sadness, anger, confusion, etc. Also, there is a wide range of different temperaments; just as humans range widely in terms of height, weight or IQ, we also range widely in temperament, from the chronically depressed to the chronically happy. If you're in the latter category, count yourself lucky!

I don't quite buy the notion that you're always happy, Mykil. I think you're exaggerating a bit. Just from the little I know about you, I'm aware that you were quite unhappy with some things I posted on Wacco awhile ago; I know it because you made your displeasure quite clear. Also, since you seem to be constantly on the lookout for girl/boyfriends, I think it's safe to assume that you experience quite a bit of loneliness, too. So I assume your self-characterization as "always happy" represents some degree of denial/repression of your negative feelings. I myself would not choose denial/repression as a way of dealing with negative feelings but, who knows, perhaps I'd be better off if I did.

Having said that, I think it's quite plausible that you may really be happy nearly all the time. If that's true, I envy you. As we used to say in Calvary Bible Church, count your blessings!

Dixon

[mykil]

Hey Dixon; How you been? Your outlook alwayz intrigues me; you see no evidence that we are suppose to be happy all the time. Hmmm well hell. Nether do I. The only thing I see in humans or any other kind of animal is selfishness, the need to survive. I was thinking this the other day when my lovely mother told me I had better not die before her. Wow that is just plain selfish I told her. She was shocked. I ask why I wasn’t aloud to die before her. She told me it would break her heart, and that no child is suppose to die before that parent. HHmmmmm well hell that is just selfish!!!! LOL! We are selfish to want to survive is the only thing I can relate to at this time. What we are suppose to feel is irrelevant at this point in time, I am always happy, I don’t choose to be this way, I just am. I was upset at you, no worries, it didn’t even bring me down, I was still happy!
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AS far as dating goes, I LOVE Women, all Women!!! One day I might find one that will put up with me, but for now, I will continue to date. I am a co-dependent person, so I do prefer to be with someone, it gives me pleasure to share my life with someone close to me. No need to go lonely if you don’t have to!!! I have always been a co-dependant person, and see no reason to stop. All those classes people take to break the cycle are just wrong in my opinion! But if you are in a bad relationship and need to break the cycle, then I guess you need to do what you need to do. I guess there is no evidence of this either? Some are out in the woods by them selves for years and some can’t even drive to the store by there self. You are the expert Dix and I would love to hear more from you on all subjects!!! PEACE!!!

[alphagrl]

HAPPINESS.

hmmm. what is the bottom line of happiness. Is it sugar coated Walt Disney pink things or is it just going to the gas station and having the person there share "Wow! did you SEE that moon tonight?".

Can't happiness just come from simple pleasures?

Having moved here fairly recently (3 years ago), I'm impressed with the happiness at large in the West County. That's not to say that people have eliminated financial stress, family problems, human conditions from their lives, but I get this sense of overall contentment, ie happiness, that comes from the beauty that surrounds us.

Driving down 116 from Forestville to Sebastopol while the apple trees were all in blossom recently, I couldn't help but gleefully calling out from my car, "Hello, Ladies!" They were all looking so beautiful in their prom gowns.

Makes my heart leap up, even though I may have my own stresses, this that, not so perfect, but THIS, the witnessing of the seasons, the astounding beauty that embraces us here creates a general sense of happiness.

YES! I think that by and large, compared to people in a lot of other places, this is a happy place.

Don't you know TONS of people who just say, I Love It Here!. It's true. I hear that all the time.

I love it here and it makes me happy to be here, to look out at my overgrown too high maintenance yard in the morning and see the bees and butterflies in multitudes and remark on the beauty of it all even when I'm feeling like I can't keep up.

How do you define Happiness!

Alphagrl

[Nirmala]

Hey Dixon,

It seems that you are a recovering Christian. And maybe everything that your church told you wasn't true or maybe there were some good true things but then people didn't really live that way, whatever don't let that make you anti spiritual traditions without investigation. Just my opinion!

Anyway, human beings all experience many different emotions and mind states, these energies come and go. They don't belong to anyone, they are universal. At some point everyone experiences sadness, for example. But is there a natural state? Is there an unconditioned state? And what is that? And what proof of it would you accept? Is there a true nature, beyond or beneath all those emotions, thoughts, feelings, beliefs, mind states, that are coming and going? I just wonder what you think.

And by the way. I think being able to be happy all the time is great but what do you mean by happiness? There is a sweet joy, a calm quietness that comes from accepting all of lifes ups and downs, not getting too excited or too overwhelmed although at times that happens. And there is the happiness that comes from sense pleasures such as a good meal or beautiful music, a child's laugh, a magnificient sunset, a great relationship but all these things aren't lasting. True some of them last a long time but nothing permanent, forever. Is there another kind of happiness that doesn't depend on the outside, on sense pleasures?

And I agree with you that sometimes people who say they are happy all the time are only fooling themselves, they are repressing their sadness or pain when it arises, denying anything negative and loss does happen. So does pain, do does blame, so does criticism. Ther opposities happen as well. Life goes on, coming and going, up and down, in and out. Can one be happy given these changing conditions?

In peace, the greatest happinesss,
Nirmala

[Tinque]

Dixon, I was impressed with your thoughts about happiness. I am a very positive person and am at most times very uplifting and happy , at least as much as one can be, yet as you wrote we all have an array of emotions , which as you said can range from happiness to depression , anxiety , loneliness and more. Recently I have experienced these emotions , at all extremes. I know Mykil and think it is great that he is feeling good about himself , ( no matter how egotistical he may seem ), I think he is FINALLY at a time in his life, in which he is aware of, what he wants and is taking care of himself and expressing himself honestly, (to some peoples chagrin), yet is sincere and honest and I truly respect that! I enjoy his company and actually am amused at his "STYLE". He knows I see exactly what is up and we make each other smile in recognition of the strange ways of life , yet try to enjoy and even pursue as many pleasures as possible.. He is a sweet ( kind of ) cute, yet sincere REAL guy.. I think you are a sweet wonderful guy as well. You gave me wood when I needed it , helped me load it , threw in some starter logs and REALLY made me HAPPY that there are people like you that are happy to help others even when you yourself are in need.. Thank You..Happy thoughts coming your way my dear !

[mykil]

What it takes to piss me off; I woke this morning to a really rude email from a little old lady down the street that wanted her furniture ASAP as in right now! She is tired of waiting and finds it extremely rude that I am not working on her schedule. This is after I have had it in my shop holding it for three long months so as she can take her sweet time and make room for it. So I call a friend and tell him I need him ASAP so I may oblige. No worries though I send her a really sweet email telling her to lighten up and I am off and running for the day. Get it to her house in less than an hour, after receiving another that stated it had to be there at five fifteen and no sooner, yeah right! I left it on her lovely deck and walked away smiling knowing that I had done way more than my share to make this little event uneventful, I already had plans a five fifteen!
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Around Noon or so I get a call from the little ole lady that works for me, she has bought a new couch at ANOTHER second hand store and needs me to pick it up and deliver it to her apartment in Rosa. Well hell I love her and if she wants to shop at other second hand stores so be it. Just wish she would call the owner of that store to deliver as well!!! LOL!!
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I file this in the back of my brain and get an email from a really sweet women that tells me Barry is all upset with her to some post she has made, I tell her not to worry and send her lots of love and appreciation and file that one too! No worries, the rest of the day is going smoothly when right when I am about to close, [cause my sweet little ole lady is sitting on the couch she bought, waiting for me cause they close at five, and she had them to set it out front of the store]. Everyone and there mommy comes in to look around and really just start tearing the place apart, I am not gong to kick people out that I don’t know, hell they might put my next kids through collage. Waiting, waiting, waiting…. Poor Anne I can just see her sitting on that couch waiting waiting waiting…
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I get there and she is really getting irked I see, so I honk and I can just see the sigh of relief in her loving eyes, “Oh the little bastered finally decided to show up” I can her mumbling under her breath. LOL! No worries. Wait, what the f… is she thinking? This thing is not going through those doors and up that elevator without some sort of prayer! Oh well, well see. So as I am jamming this thing in the elevator and trying to push any friggin button my phone rings and it is my lovely ex landlady slash roommate slash lover. Oh yeah, I have to go to home depo and pick up a new refrigerator and some flooring for her, I was hungry a few hours ago and am getting a little light headed. Hmm the door has to come off, why? Just get me a little hammer and a screwdriver Anne. Why? Please Anne, just a screwdriver well do. Why? Oh man!!! Hey it worked!! WOW!!!
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Off down the road toward home depo, still hungry, no worries, I suppose all will be done soon. Oh lets wait for her to get here, no worries, five, ten, fifteen, minutes, what is it with you women? Ok twenty-five minutes latter we go to will call to get this already paid for merchandise, ok how long will it be? To long! After about a half hour I see the fridge, and after the guy telling me I can’t have it because he thinks it belongs to someone else, I put that in the truck, oh its not in the right place in the truck? Really it’s fine where it’s at! Back in the store for the flooring, now I get a call from my little baby girl that tells me Barry is all freaked out about the letter I sent her and that he wants us to call him, wait, calm down, it will be ok, no biggy, just learn to relax a little and breath and everything it the whole wide world is not worth the effort you have put into getting all worked up sweetie!!! Five, ten, fifteen… Oh her it is, oh of course it’s the wrong kind, who would have even suggested you bring the right color anyway? Five, ten, fifteen…. So you want to unpack the pallet and put the flooring on the truck by hand because you don’t want an extra pallet at you house? Your kidding right? Oh you aren’t I forgot that about you, you never kid! I want a new pallet at my wherever it is I live again thought, so I think it will be ok! I even want the plastic wrap can we just eat??? OK let’s meet up at the restaurant and finally eat! I am surprised I am still walking! I get a little cranky if I don’t eat for some strange reason!
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Ok at the restaurant, waiting, wait she was right behind me yes? Waiting, five, ten, fifteen, twenty, call her on the ceil no answer, twenty five, call, thirty was she in a wreck, thirty five getting a little agitated, my friends at the restaurant are asking where she is, waiting mannnnn!! So in she walks just says we must go, what? We have to go unload this stuff now, no explanations; no hey sorry I am late, just we must go unload this now. Ok see ya guyz I will be right back. I am not sure why, I just drive to her house and unload the stuff, she tills me she is sorry, she just can’t eat dinner with me! Well hell can you answer the phone and tell me this so I don’t faint from hunger, I don’t talk or say much of anything, I just suppose it is because she was on the phone with her new boy toy that lives in BRAZIL for god sakes women!!! I get a call from a really special lady that wants to have dinner with me! No I am serious, back to the restaurant I order for her and her two lovely children, I am starving I am eating with or without her, waiting, five, ten fifteen, twenty, my friend that owns the restaurant looks at me and asks who I am waiting for this time, I lost it, I was laughing so hard I had tears coming down my face and really was just not waiting anymore, so I ate and felt soooo good, thought about what really upset Barry and my little baby girl and so many others in our time. While we may never know what it will take to push me over the edge, at least I know what others will do just to keep there p’s and q’s in order!
I am still laughing and hope you are too, hope all of you have a wonderful day, week, lifetime and beyond!!!!! Try to be happy and stay in focus, broaden your horizons and happiness will come. Peace!
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[ThePhiant]

you stood me up!
I ain't buying this lame ass public excuse!

LuLu


What it takes to piss me off; I woke this morning to a really rude email from a little old lady down the street that wanted her furniture ASAP as in right now! ...
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[Dixon]

What it takes to piss me off; I woke this morning to a really rude email from a little old lady down the street that wanted her furniture ASAP as in right now...

Ahhh, thanks for opening up enough to admit that your self-characterization as being "happy all the time" was exaggerated, just as I previously suggested. To quote Laurie Anderson: "Oboy, right again!" LOL!

Blessings;

Only Occasionally Happy Dixon

[AquaGyrl]

Spanking Boy... you wrote so fast I could hardly catch my breath between sentences. Despite your vision problems, your writing is actually pretty good. You should write that book we talked about on Saturday. I'll edit for you. Promise. Just do 'stream of consciousness.'

On another note... glad you 'let it out...' Watch out for those self-serving people who treat you as doormat as 'doormat disease' (once you catch it) is hazardous to your overall well-being and very difficult to shake.

Kisses.
AquaGryl



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[Becky]

Mykil you are the kind of person I would love to meet. With so many grumpy people in the world its wonderful to hear that there is a happy person. I'm sure you lighten up a room where ever you go. Keep it up!!!!

[Willie Lumplump]

With so many grumpy people in the world its wonderful to hear that there is a happy person.

We grumpy people are a misunderstood and downtrodden class. I'd like to point out that it's not our fault. Research strongly suggests that people have a "set point" of happiness that they return to whenever they deviate too far in one direction or the other. No doubt subtle hormonal balances are involved, and though there's nothing wrong with being optimistic about positive change, it doesn't pay to get carried away by one's own optimism. So, Becky, please remember that the next time you start feelling happy. And quit picking on grumpy people! We have rights too, you know.

[mykil]

ROTFLMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



We grumpy people are a misunderstood and downtrodden class. I'd like to point out that it's not our fault. Research strongly suggests that people have a "set point" of happiness that they return to whenever they deviate too far in one direction or the other. No doubt subtle hormonal balances are involved, and though there's nothing wrong with being optimistic about positive change, it doesn't pay to get carried away by one's own optimism. So, Becky, please remember that the next time you start feelling happy. And quit picking on grumpy people! We have rights too, you know.

[Becky]

LMAO I'm one of those grumpy people LOL but i love it when someone can make me giggle. you all are such a hoot. :thumbsup:


And quit picking on grumpy people! We have rights too, you know.

[Kermit1941]

For the last few years or so, when I meet someone and they ask me what I am like, I tell them I am just a happy person.
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For the pass few weeks or so, I am wondering if this is wrong for me to be happy all the time.
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The last time I was in love, over ten years ago, when my heart was broken up in little tiny pieces and thrown to the wolves, I was really heart broken beyond my own expectations, but I was still happy!
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I don’t know why I choose to write this and post it here, it is just something I really would like to discuss with everyone, and get more than just a few opinions, all you would be psychiatrists are welcome to tell me what I am all about.
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But at this point I am really curious how they will react, and ultimately dispute the fact, and/or tell me that that is not in the normal behavior of anyone in the whole entire history of civilization. Peace!:wink:
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Brother Mykil!

For myself, being happy all the time was a conscious choice.

I figured out what things I should consider important, and what things
I should consider not important in order to avoid unhappiness.

Kermit < [email protected] >

[shellebelle]

No being happy isn't a bad trait. I enjoy smiling all the time and I am told I always have smiled and laughed a lot.

I once had probably the greatest compliment of my life when a girl I knew slightly in high school told me she really appreciated that I always had a smile for her and that there were days mine was the only smile she got. She had a rough high school time with family issues (seems like lots of us did) and said there were days when she just was overwhelmed and there I was laughing and smiling and most importantly including her.

I've never forgotten her comment. I try hard to include people and acknowledge them to the best of my ability because I may be the only person that does that day and everyone deserves a smile - to be acknowledged.

:wink: :): :thumbsup:

So have some smiles and if you need a laugh drop me a note I have a pretty good sense of humor too!

[nurturetruth]

I recently received the message (which seems to keep repeating itself through many forms) :

<tt>*** "We all choose our experiences for certain attainment of lessons and a deeper knowledge of Love. "***

I believe and support this statement.

I also feel happy supporting the belief that it is all "OK" and healthy to feel any and all emotions needed in order to help increase our awareness during our journey of love and truth.

Because I do not support the belief of right/wrong or what is 'good/bad'... I can't fully answer the question..

But I do feel its healthy to allow all feelings to move through me and I most certainly DO learn from all of them!!


I can understand the phrase, "most of the time" or even, "95% of the time." But to state "all the time"... is basically not allowing room to recognize the existence of any other emotion / energy field to move through the body,...or perhaps its just what one feels like on an anti-depressant!

So my question is: "if one was happy all the time or claims to be..how did they attain that so called trait or state of being?"
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