Vet-To-Pet
03-17-2007, 08:24 PM
:peacock::hello: I wonder why it's so difficult for a single woman who's middle-aged (52), educated/intelligent, kind-hearted, funny as hell:hilarious: , fit & healthy, sensitive to the "male gender issues", easy to talk to as well as a good listener, not bad to look at :anon: , independent financially (as well as not encroaching on someone's "space"), with a variety of interests should be having such a struggle meeting any men who are available (not married or partnered-up), about my same age range/similar life experiences, likes to go for bike rides as well as out to the theater, can carry on a conversation about things other than their job and sports, is earning a modest or better income, takes care of themselves physically, have a sensitive awareness about themselves & don't feel vulnerable to allow that to show, and who doesn't have preconceived notions about how "the man" and "the woman" should play their roles in a relationship??
I am not perfect (but parts of me are excellent....), and I don't expect (nor desire) perfection in a romantic partner. I believe that no one reaches their 40s or 50s without acquiring some baggage/issues:eek: , but that doesn't mean we're damaged goods---it means we've lived, we've experienced the ups & downs that life has presented & have dealt with them as best we can (maybe not everyone has dealt with them...). I think those experiences often make us more interesting people, especially if it meant overcoming adversity & learning something from the experiences. I find other peoples' "histories" fascinating---they make us who we've turned out to BE. Honestly exposing who we are, allowing others to see the 'real us', is the best way to find out if we're truly interested with that other person---not just the "person" they're presenting to the world.
So, I'm throwing my hat into the ring---I'm an honest to goodness woman who is proud of who I've turned out to "be", and would love to meet some men who'd be able to just be themselves, no facades, meet each other & see how we like each other. Maybe we'll become friends, we can ride bikes together or go out dancing :dogdance: or grab dinner & a movie once in awhile....but maybe we'll find out we "fit", we're attracted to each other, we're not perfect but we're not bad!
Smiles,
Paula (Sebastopol)
I am not perfect (but parts of me are excellent....), and I don't expect (nor desire) perfection in a romantic partner. I believe that no one reaches their 40s or 50s without acquiring some baggage/issues:eek: , but that doesn't mean we're damaged goods---it means we've lived, we've experienced the ups & downs that life has presented & have dealt with them as best we can (maybe not everyone has dealt with them...). I think those experiences often make us more interesting people, especially if it meant overcoming adversity & learning something from the experiences. I find other peoples' "histories" fascinating---they make us who we've turned out to BE. Honestly exposing who we are, allowing others to see the 'real us', is the best way to find out if we're truly interested with that other person---not just the "person" they're presenting to the world.
So, I'm throwing my hat into the ring---I'm an honest to goodness woman who is proud of who I've turned out to "be", and would love to meet some men who'd be able to just be themselves, no facades, meet each other & see how we like each other. Maybe we'll become friends, we can ride bikes together or go out dancing :dogdance: or grab dinner & a movie once in awhile....but maybe we'll find out we "fit", we're attracted to each other, we're not perfect but we're not bad!
Smiles,
Paula (Sebastopol)