Private replies to posts vs. public - manners and respect

[Lisa G]

I dont do a lot of online stuff, but I've been posting alot lately and I notice some people like to respond privately with somewhat presumptuous, a bit rude, and uninformed comments. I think if you have something to say, say it where everyone can see it, and maybe a lively and informative discussion might follow.

If you respond to someones post with an inquiry, and they answer, then at least have the manners to give some kind of idea why you stopped the dialogue. It takes time (with my slow dial up connection this takes alot of time if online vs the phone) and energy to write these things. Or maybe that is just the way these things go??
I for one post because I am really serious about what I am asking/selling/giving away/ seeking etc.

Private comments such as how much I can afford, my dog handling skills, the friends I am seeking, and suggestions that I dont know what I am talking about are rude and disrespectful, and in some cases blatantly misinformed . Perhaps I am just too sensitive, but I have some higher expectations of this community then say, Craigs' List, or the press democrat ads.

the thing is, you really dont know the person you are writing to, until you meet them. They might be highly educated, or not, have a great living wage income, or barely be making ends meet. Hell they might even be a professional animal trainer and consultant who knows exactly what they are talking about.

So, I welcome PUBLIC dialogue. Let's hash it out if you have something to say.

Lisa and the critters

[Barry]

...I notice some people like to respond privately with somewhat presumptuous, a bit rude, and uninformed comments. I think if you have something to say, say it where everyone can see it, and maybe a lively and informative discussion might follow. ...

I appreciate Lisa G's sentiment, however many replies should be private since they don't involve the community. In fact WaccoBB doesn't allow public replies for housing and for sale categories. Any private replies must be completely respectful and without judgement. I encourage members who receive an inappropriate private reply to contact me so I can any action that is warranted.
If you have an issue with someone's post, please start a new thread so it can be discussed in public. :waccosun:

[gypsey]

Lisa,
As someone who replied publicly to 2 of your posts, I hope I was respectful in both. However, I want you to know I actually debated replying privately instead, b/c I did not want to embarrass or criticize you.
As I mentioned in both my posts, my intention was to share and inform. And I am very sorry if in some private replies, you received unkind or disrespectful response.

What I am not hearing from you is any appreciation or recognition that this is a challenge for those who respond, as well. Were there any responses that were helpful? Did you learn anything? Or are you disappointed that folks didn't particularly agree with your point of view? You mentioned wanting open dialogue, and I provided direct opinions, including about what you were prepared to offer in terms of fees for pet care.. What did you think? (No worries, I am open to feedback.)

To sum up as a long-time WACCO member, folks are folks and they are not perfect; exchanges on this site have ranged from the caring & informative to virulent and just plain crazy. It's quite a ride, sometimes. I find it worth it.

All best,
Gypsey


I dont do a lot of online stuff, but I've been posting alot lately and I notice some people like to respond privately with somewhat presumptuous, a bit rude, and uninformed comments. I think if you have something to say, say it where everyone can see it, and maybe a lively and informative discussion might follow....