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Valley Oak
08-18-2016, 10:21 AM
<header data-beacon="{&quot;p&quot;:{&quot;mnid&quot;:&quot;headline&quot;}}">I Am Both A Cop’s Daughter And A Victim Of Police Brutality. I now understand both sides. (https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/i-feel-you-both-of-you_us_57ac7994e4b08c46f0e4c1c8?section=&)

08/11/2016
Cheryl Moore (https://www.huffingtonpost.com/author/ntlsmoore-228)Impolite, unsubtle, and impatient reflections from the time-out chair.

JOE BELANGER
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On a summer night in 1983, I, a white, 18-year-old, university sophomore, sat outside, with my 22-year-old black boyfriend, Ray. Taken by surprise, we were suddenly surrounded by eight uniformed Pittsburgh police officers, thrown on the ground, tossed around, handcuffed, and arrested. When I, lying alone on the floor of a paddy wagon, asked what I had done, I was told, “This is what happens to white girls who love n*ggers.” I was taken to the public safety building, locked in a cell for eight hours, and at my arraignment, learned that we had each been charged with public intoxication, disorderly conduct, resisting arrest, and disturbing the peace. Not only was each charge completely fabricated, we were never read our Miranda rights. Not only was each charge completely fabricated, we were never read our Miranda rights.

“This is what happens to white girls who love niggers.”

Ray and I spoke to a lawyer who told us that the sight of interracial couples was infuriating to police, but that we could be sure that none of the arresting officers would take the time to show up at the preliminary hearing. We went to the hearing to find that five of the eight arresting officers, including the one black officer, were apparently infuriated enough to show up. Our lawyer spoke to them and then told us that he felt the best thing for us to do was to shake each officer’s hand and apologize. If we did that, the officers had agreed to drop all but one of the summary charges, for which we would only be assessed a fine. That is what we did. [We] spoke to a lawyer who told us that the sight of interracial couples was infuriating to police...

What the policemen did not know was that my father was a cop. He was smart and hard-working and had risen through the ranks of the Pittsburgh Police Department to lieutenant, and then had moved to the other side of Pennsylvania to become the successful Chief of Police of three combined townships. He had a career that spanned from 1940s to the 1980s, covering some of the most tumultuous and challenging eras for law enforcement.

I was a sensitive, shy, bookish kid, and my father was my rock, always concerned about how serious and solitary I seemed. He tried to teach me to be careful in this world. To protect myself and not put myself in harm’s way. Not one to talk about himself, when I asked him what it was like to be a cop, he eventually admitted, “It’s scary.” When I pushed him, he described the tension of approaching a stopped car, exposed and not knowing what was waiting for him to get close, and of being called to a domestic, knowing that passions would be running high. He talked about the struggle to stay in control when he saw heart-breaking things, like severely abused children. I once asked him if he had ever shot anyone and he said, “Thank God, no. I fired my gun once, but, luckily, I missed.” I felt scared for my father’s safety, knowing him to be a sensitive, creative, tender man, of extreme intelligence, who played the trombone in jazz clubs and had the soul of a poet and philosopher.We agreed that our arrest remained one of the worst events of each of our lives, still affecting us in serious ways.

After our arrest, Ray and I struggled to resume normal young lives. Like most victims of bullying, we felt anxious, defeated, and depressed. This was the first time that either of us had been in trouble and we felt that our lives were out of our own control. We became hyper-vigilant, angry, and cynical, showing signs of what I now know to be PTSD. We both felt deeply ashamed and filled with self-doubt. Eventually, Ray and I broke up and went our separate ways. When we reconnected, after almost 20 busy years, we agreed that our arrest remained one of the worst events of each of our lives, still affecting us in serious ways.

Only the most courageous people are bullied...

Continues here (https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/i-feel-you-both-of-you_us_57ac7994e4b08c46f0e4c1c8?section=&)

arthunter
08-18-2016, 12:00 PM
I know that this is a quote, but I'd really rather not see derogatory racist, sexist, or religious terminology on this bulletin board ... we have enough of this BS in our country right now without spreading the sickness locally ...

Valley Oak
08-20-2016, 10:47 AM
It's thanks to people with attitudes like yours, "art hunter," that our society never resolves barbaric issues such as racism. It needs to be brought out in the open and discussed thoroughly and flushed out. The opinion you expressed contributes to police brutality, not the other way around. Before gay marriage was legalized last year (2015) in all 50 states, the topic of same-sex marriage was considered "impolite conversation" among conservative and religious circles. This was and still is because, according to the conservative mentality, being gay was wrong and bringing up the subject was always reprehensible and inappropriate. Unless, of course, it was to condemn and ridicule other people's sexuality because it goes against god, etc, etc.


I know that this is a quote, but I'd really rather not see derogatory racist, sexist, or religious terminology on this bulletin board ... we have enough of this BS in our country right now without spreading the sickness locally ...

arthunter
08-20-2016, 03:57 PM
I'm in favor of discussing all of it, but I think that that can be done without the insulting terminology ...

snake
09-08-2016, 11:35 PM
Well, remember art, all those black rappers certainly like yelling the 'nigger' word around in their rap crap music.

Apparently, the word is NOT 'insulting' at all in that context.

Interesting.

I'm in favor of discussing all of it, but I think that that can be done without the insulting terminology ...