A Handful of Gorgeous Women

[watchin]

:tinker: A handful of gorgeous, :tinker: happy, creative, intelligent and playful women are going to be at the Underwood Cafe in Graton on the full moon, Thursday, September 7<SUP>th</SUP>, and Friday, September 8<SUP>th</SUP>, sometime between 6:00 and 7:00 PM....till ? We are planning on having a great time whether we remain alone or not. We thought we would extend an invitation to a particular kind of men out here, to join the room. Some of us want a permanent relationship; some are undecided. We are all interested in enjoying the opposite sex when we aren’t having fun at the Underwood with our girlfriends. You might say we are passively seeking men, but are would rather avoid the married and chicken (fearful) varieties.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p>

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These are some of our interests...<o:p></o:p>

Music: players, writers and listeners<o:p></o:p>

Horses<o:p></o:p>

Archery<o:p></o:p>

Dancing

Writing<o:p></o:p>

Travel

Astronomy

Geology

Landscaping/Gardening<o:p></o:p>

Word Play<o:p></o:p>

Curious about things like quantum physics, spiritual thoughts, and other intellectual directions<o:p></o:p>

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Qualities: We appreciate men who are...<o:p></o:p>

Generous<o:p></o:p>

Loving<o:p></o:p>

Positive<o:p></o:p>

Creative

<o:p>Passionate</o:p>
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Whose...<o:p></o:p>

Libidos function

Who...

Have a sense of humor

Understand Integrity<o:p></o:p>

Feel successful within themselves

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Generalities...<o:p></o:p>

Lives in <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" /><st1:place w:st="on"><st1:PlaceName w:st="on">Sonoma</st1:PlaceName> <st1:PlaceType w:st="on">County</st1:PlaceType></st1:place><o:p></o:p>

Lives in <st1:place w:st="on"><st1:PlaceName w:st="on">West</st1:PlaceName> <st1:PlaceName w:st="on">Sonoma</st1:PlaceName> <st1:PlaceType w:st="on">County</st1:PlaceType></st1:place><o:p></o:p>

Can afford to eat at the Underwood, regularly, or other similar bistros<o:p></o:p>

Doesn’t desire, or already has children<o:p></o:p>

Makes time to have fun<o:p></o:p>

Has worked or is working on overcoming commitment phobia,
i.e. is Emotionally, Physically, and Spiritually, Available

<st1:place w:st="on"><st1:PlaceName w:st="on">Age</st1:PlaceName> <st1:PlaceType w:st="on">Range</st1:PlaceType></st1:place>: 40 (If you’ve figured it out),
To 57 (If you’re still active)<o:p></o:p>
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[Leelash]

Will you share? Can other gorgeous women join you? What a great idea! Lemme know... Maybe we can alert each other if there are any "fakers" in our midst.


:tinker: A handful of gorgeous, :tinker: happy, creative, intelligent and playful women are going to be at the Underwood Cafe in Graton on the full moon, Thursday, September 7^th, and Friday, September 8^th. We are planning on having a great time whether we remain alone or not. We thought we would extend an invitation to a particular kind of men out here, to join the room. {Snip}<o:p></o:p>
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[jeff anderson]

:tinker: A handful of gorgeous, :tinker: happy, creative, intelligent and playful women are going to be at the Underwood Cafe in Graton on the full moon, Thursday, September 7^th, and Friday, September 8^th, sometime between 6:00 and 7:00 PM. We are planning on having a great time whether we remain alone or not. i can't tell you what a kick i got out of this post. i can feel the energy, not "SINGLES GROUP" heavy icky wear surgical gloves but light and fun and wonderful... THIS is what i love about this county, this kind of possibility. this is the kind of people that make me happy to be on the planet. thanks watchin', you and your friends, for breaking out of the mould and shinnying out to play on skinny branches. you inspire me.

[alanora]

:tinker: A handful of gorgeous, :tinker: happy, creative, intelligent and playful women are going to be at the Underwood Cafe in Graton on the full moon, Thursday, September 7^th, and Friday, September 8^th, sometime between 6:00 and 7:00 PM....till ? We are planning on having a great time whether we remain alone or not.
I adore your idea of putting out there the picture of exactly what you would like to have and then inviting it to show up at a scheduled time and place. I love that you are amongst girlfriends and in a familiar public place. I love that you are essentially asking for what so many women I know desire..and are very close to my idea of ideal reality as well. Others are echoing me in my request that you let us know how it went. I will envision a joy filled repast and future. Mindy

[Looksgood]

I saw a posting here last week (that I cannot now track down) saying that a group of single women woiuld be gatherinmg at Underwood Thursday and Friday evening, and inviting single men to come and join in. I was busy Thursday, but showed up there Friday aroond 7:30. I was unfortunately unable to identify any gathering there. May I suggest that this is perhaps not the best local venue for such an event? It seems to be primarily a place that people go to eat rather than mix. The first thing I was faced with was a line waiting for tables, and it seemed rather intimidating to wander round a very crowded scene where everyone seemed to be already in groups.

The Ace in the Hole, on the other hand, is an ideal place for mixing and meeting people, and has good and free music most nights, food available, and a very friendly and non-threatening atmosphere.

I have no connection with this establishment other than being a regular there and very mucvh enjoying it as it is very much of a "pub" rather than a bar, club or restaurant, which is very rare here.

I think a gathering of single women is a very good diea, and would like to benegit from such an event, so I hope you will do it again, but in a way that better invites male participation. Just my 2 cents.

Patrick

[Dixon]

Patrick, your suggestion of Ace in the Hole as a place for these ladies to meet guys misses an important point: the ladies apparently chose a relatively pricey establishment like Underwood in order to weed out men who don't have much money. They even say it in their list of qualities they seek in their men: "Can afford to eat at the Underwood, regularly, or other similar bistros". So the transaction they seek is consistent with the usual formula of male-female romantic transactions: the woman trades her beauty (note that the first adjective these ladies use in their self-description is "gorgeous") for men's money (note that the first adjective they use to describe the men they seek is "generous").

This is consistent with my observation that in personals ads, men usually use words like "slim", "attractive" and "sensual" to describe women they seek, while women more often use words like "generous", "financially secure", and "well-established" to describe the men they seek. If you don't believe me, grab the personals section and see for yourself.

Some, frustrated in their efforts to get their relationship needs met, slide into judgmentalness, thinking of women as whores because they trade their beauty/sexuality for money (usually through a process called "marriage"), or thinking of men as shallow sluts because we so often want to fuck all the beauties we see ("Men--they're only interested in ONE THING."). I urge everyone to withhold the harsh judgments, keeping in mind that we're all slaves to our hormones, which were programmed with our differing relationship needs over millions of years for very good evolutionary reasons.

Sincerely, an unapologetic but penniless slut;
Dixon


I saw a posting here last week (that I cannot now track down) saying that a group of single women woiuld be gatherinmg at Underwood Thursday and Friday evening, and inviting single men to come and join in. I was busy Thursday, but showed up there Friday aroond 7:30. I was unfortunately unable to identify any gathering there. May I suggest that this is perhaps not the best local venue for such an event? It seems to be primarily a place that people go to eat rather than mix. The first thing I was faced with was a line waiting for tables, and it seemed rather intimidating to wander round a very crowded scene where everyone seemed to be already in groups.

The Ace in the Hole, on the other hand, is an ideal place for mixing and meeting people, and has good and free music most nights, food available, and a very friendly and non-threatening atmosphere.

I have no connection with this establishment other than being a regular there and very mucvh enjoying it as it is very much of a "pub" rather than a bar, club or restaurant, which is very rare here.

I think a gathering of single women is a very good diea, and would like to benegit from such an event, so I hope you will do it again, but in a way that better invites male participation. Just my 2 cents.

Patrick

[Barry]

Patrick, your suggestion of Ace in the Hole as a place for these ladies to meet guys misses an important point: the ladies apparently chose a relatively pricey establishment like Underwood in order to weed out men who don't have much money. They even say it in their list of qualities they seek in their men: "Can afford to eat at the Underwood, regularly, or other similar bistros". So the transaction they seek is consistent with the usual formula of male-female romantic transactions: the woman trades her beauty (note that the first adjective these ladies use in their self-description is "gorgeous") for men's money (note that the first adjective they use to describe the men they seek is "generous").

This is consistent with my observation that in personals ads, men usually use words like "slim", "attractive" and "sensual" to describe women they seek, while women more often use words like "generous", "financially secure", and "well-established" to describe the men they seek. If you don't believe me, grab the personals section and see for yourself.

Some, frustrated in their efforts to get their relationship needs met, slide into judgmentalness, thinking of women as whores because they trade their beauty/sexuality for money (usually through a process called "marriage"), or thinking of men as shallow sluts because we so often want to fuck all the beauties we see ("Men--they're only interested in ONE THING."). I urge everyone to withhold the harsh judgments, keeping in mind that we're all slaves to our hormones, which were programmed with our differing relationship needs over millions of years for very good evolutionary reasons.

Sincerely, an unapologetic but penniless slut;
DixonThank you, Dixon, for your keen observational skills as always. While I don't think this is all that is at work in this case, or in dating in general, I do think that bringing this starkly into focus is very helpful in helping us become more conscious of at least this aspect.

I must say I was disappointed to hear that the invitation was also posted on that upstart bulletin board (I think it's called Craigslist or something like that :wink: ) so that it wasn't just you conscious Waccos & Waccettes!

I'm sure I'm not alone in being curious about how the evenings turned out. Would any of you wonderful Waccos, either you gorgeous women or you generous men, care to sure your experience and reflections of the evening(s) with us. (Of course you can change the names to protect the guilty if you wish).

[zenekar]

You may see me at Mexico Lindo in Graton, where the unpretentious working people meet and eat.

Attila
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:tinker: A handful of gorgeous, :tinker: happy, creative, intelligent and playful women are going to be at the Underwood Cafe in Graton

[Cherish]

Thank you, Dixon, for your keen observational skills as always. While I don't think this is all that is at work in this case, or in dating in general, I do think that bringing this starkly into focus is very helpful in helping us become more conscious of at least this aspect.

I must say I was disappointed to hear that the invitation was also posted on that upstart bulletin board (I think it's called Craigslist or something like that :wink: ) so that it wasn't just you conscious Waccos & Waccettes!

I'm sure I'm not alone in being curious about how the evenings turned out. Would any of you wonderful Waccos, either you gorgeous women or you generous men, care to sure your experience and reflections of the evening(s) with us. (Of course you can change the names to protect the guilty if you w
ish).

Ahhh, Dixon, as always you have such a way with words!!! So colorful, so unpretentious, so ... so ... BLATENT!!! It's good for us. Hope to see you at the poetry slams again.

Cherish

[broadbandersnatch]

Hey Dixon,

While I already replied to you privately, I want to publicly commend you for your insightful analysis of the posting of the "gorgeous women". You have laid out some universal truths in a very pithy and succinct manner. I'm sure there are many men and women who were nodding their heads in agreement when they read your post. Although there may be some women out there who may have taken offense at your post (like perhaps, certain "gorgeous women,") I know from your careful wording that none was meant. I would close with suggesting that perhaps the world of dating is somewhat self regulating, as the women who placed that ad probably wouldn't be interested in guys like us and most likely visa versa. Lastly, if it weren't for the fact that I have a partner, I would be tempted to concur with Atila and say, "see you at the Ace in the Hole or that mexican restaurant"! Thanks for your honesty and courage I know it took to place that reply.

Brian



Patrick, your suggestion of Ace in the Hole as a place for these ladies to meet guys misses an important point: the ladies apparently chose a relatively pricey establishment like Underwood in order to weed out men who don't have much money. They even say it in their list of qualities they seek in their men: "Can afford to eat at the Underwood, regularly, or other similar bistros". So the transaction they seek is consistent with the usual formula of male-female romantic transactions: the woman trades her beauty (note that the first adjective these ladies use in their self-description is "gorgeous") for men's money (note that the first adjective they use to describe the men they seek is "generous").

This is consistent with my observation that in personals ads, men usually use words like "slim", "attractive" and "sensual" to describe women they seek, while women more often use words like "generous", "financially secure", and "well-established" to describe the men they seek. If you don't believe me, grab the personals section and see for yourself.

Some, frustrated in their efforts to get their relationship needs met, slide into judgmentalness, thinking of women as whores because they trade their beauty/sexuality for money (usually through a process called "marriage"), or thinking of men as shallow sluts because we so often want to fuck all the beauties we see ("Men--they're only interested in ONE THING."). I urge everyone to withhold the harsh judgments, keeping in mind that we're all slaves to our hormones, which were programmed with our differing relationship needs over millions of years for very good evolutionary reasons.

Sincerely, an unapologetic but penniless slut;
Dixon

[Dixon]

Brian;

Thank you for your cogent comments and especially for your very kind, generous words about me (hey, ladies, he's generous!).

By the way, if any of you have need of a dandy mallet percussionist/keyboard player, Brian's your man.

Cheers!

Dixon



Hey Dixon,

While I already replied to you privately, I want to publicly commend you for your insightful analysis of the posting of the "gorgeous women". You have laid out some universal truths in a very pithy and succinct manner. I'm sure there are many men and women who were nodding their heads in agreement when they read your post. Although there may be some women out there who may have taken offense at your post (like perhaps, certain "gorgeous women,") I know from your careful wording that none was meant. I would close with suggesting that perhaps the world of dating is somewhat self regulating, as the women who placed that ad probably wouldn't be interested in guys like us and most likely visa versa. Lastly, if it weren't for the fact that I have a partner, I would be tempted to concur with Atila and say, "see you at the Ace in the Hole or that mexican restaurant"! Thanks for your honesty and courage I know it took to place that reply.

Brian

[Barry]

You can follow the aftermath of this daring adventure on the "A Handful of Peaceful, Generous Women (https://www.waccobb.com/forums/showthread.php?t=11982)" thread.