Ray Tuley
12-11-2013, 09:58 PM
Greetings community, Most of the time I have at least a small clue about how to handle certain things, but with this one, I'm at a complete loss. I have a lady in my life that is my best friend. We have a 13 year history and have been through a lot together, good times, bad times, and everything in between. Now however, we are faced with something that seems only headed towards certain disaster. My friend is 64 years old and is homeless, like me, however she has a car to stay in. Recently, she was diagnosed with a condition wherein the cartilage in her hips is almost gone. She has been told that she needs both hips replaced right away, and that it is a wonder that she is even walking. She has also been told that if she doesn't have the procedures performed soon, she faces spending the rest of her life in a wheelchair. She is totally prepared to undergo the surgery(s), but there is a major obstacle in her way.
The doctors will not operate unless she has a home, so that she can recuperate correctly. Homeless shelters won't work, and we have investigated this as thoroughly as we could with the information we have, but we always end up at a dead end. The result is that she is still in her car, and her resolve is fast disappearing. I don't want her to die out in the cold in her car, but I cannot provide what she needs, since I too, am homeless and in search of a canvas tent that I can put a woodburning stove in, so that I can stay warm. I love her as much as anyone could love another, and quite frankly, I'm scared. This isn't about me, but this whole ordeal has brought up a lot of issues for me also. I feel incompetent and lame for not being able to provide for her, or myself for that matter. I know we both could use counseling, but that will not solve her situation. It is with trepidation that I humbly present my problem to the conscious community. Thank you, and many blessings
The doctors will not operate unless she has a home, so that she can recuperate correctly. Homeless shelters won't work, and we have investigated this as thoroughly as we could with the information we have, but we always end up at a dead end. The result is that she is still in her car, and her resolve is fast disappearing. I don't want her to die out in the cold in her car, but I cannot provide what she needs, since I too, am homeless and in search of a canvas tent that I can put a woodburning stove in, so that I can stay warm. I love her as much as anyone could love another, and quite frankly, I'm scared. This isn't about me, but this whole ordeal has brought up a lot of issues for me also. I feel incompetent and lame for not being able to provide for her, or myself for that matter. I know we both could use counseling, but that will not solve her situation. It is with trepidation that I humbly present my problem to the conscious community. Thank you, and many blessings