When I was at a dance yesterday, I said to myself, "I'd be open to dancing with her but she'll need to make the first move". That got me thinking about "first moves" and I thought it would be fun to kick it around with you "guys", both singles and couples (and otherwise organized )
As the default context for this discussion, let's say it applies to approaching somebody that you are attracted to (even if you are attached, and but none the less are interested in some sort of connection). But you're also welcome to talk about first moves after a fight, when negotiating, or any other context if you clue us in.
What's the first move? Eye contact? Words? Invite for a date? Physical contact?
Do you have a general strategy when it comes to first moves? (I do, but I'll share that later)
Do you prefer it if someone else makes the first move?
Do you have any good first move stories? Or first moves you wish you had made?
Is it best to lead with with a question? Add a casual physical touch? Flowers?
Do you have an opinion about whether men or women should make the first move?
Are there times you want to make the first move, but don't know what to do?
And what about first moves when it comes to expanding a professional relationship to something more?
Interestingly enough, not long after I had the thought about the person at the dance, after not really giving much thought to her before, she reached out to me! So maybe the first move in my case was me having the thought!
Don't be shy... What's up for you when it comes to first moves??