The other night I had gone out on a date and things seemed to go swimingly well. A hug and a kiss and saying that we would see each other again. Then the email when I got home. It said sorry but I did not feel that initial spark. Now Another person I dated a few times said they do not believe in the initial spark but about two people growing on each other. i never thought about it before. Either side of it. I just would go with the flow. If it became a relationship and I was happy, I would stay, if it became a relationship and I was not happy, I would bolt. If it was a one night stand, awesome, if It was see you do not let the door knob hit you where the good lord split ya, I would either be a little stung if I was enjoying my self, or pleasantly relieved.
What I never considered was the debate about chemistry.. I know people know if they want to have sex with them with in the first 5 minutes, but a spark? Do you believe that a spark is absolutely paramount to a second date, or can friendship lead to a Lightning bolt? I have felkt both, but have any of you? What is more important that instant connection or that bond built over time, or a combination?